Think it’ll be me doing the school run for the foreseeable

[CharlieRight]

Two parts to this:

DS’s nursery class were all weighed and measured this morning, teacher posted a full list of names, heights and weights to the parents/carers and class teachers group. Over dinner I brought it up with DW who couldn’t see the problem I said well it’s kind of personal, possibly medical and it probably would not be allowed in England.

a couple of hours later she’s shouting down the phone giving someone a right bollocking in dialect. Her mother had checked the list and mistakenly posted in the school group (rather than the family group presumably) something along the lines of ‘look how much so and so weighs’.

Awful isn’t it?

You lost me who is she and her mother in the 2nd part of your post

What country are you in?

What is your question?

Clear as mud.

Children get weighed/measured at nursery... Is that a thing now, suppose it must be as its happened here.

But then that full list gets sent to everyone of the parents/carers as a combined list...so each parent/carer knows the weight/hight of every child?

Why does one need to know every DC's stats.

Your post doesn’t make sense. Who posted what? Who is ‘her’ mother and what has it got to do with the list? Who was she having a go at and for what?
In any case, a list of heights and weights of other children shouldn’t be made public in any way, including to other parents.

I assume grandma is also in the chat group and posted about how fat a child was in there rather than making such a delightful comment just to her family

So the nursery made the list public that in itself is bloody ridiculous and I would be complaining to the nursery. Then on top of that your mother in law made a comment about one of the other children's weight publicly so all the parents could read her commenting negatively on a small child's weight! She sounds delightful.

Her mother had checked the list and mistakenly posted in the school group (rather than the family group presumably) something along the lines of ‘look how much so and so weighs’.

🤣

Not nice for the child and child’s parents but bound to happen eventually!

Any responses on the school group chat?

How is the post's title connected to the actual post?

Why on earth is grandma in the school group?!

@noonesayscheese I imagine grandma normally does the school run but has now put her foot in it royally and her daughter has had a go at her so she won't be doing it.

So all parents received a list of all kids weights in the class. You rightly thought that wasn't OK. Your MIL slagged off another kids weight in the class chat and now your DW is getting shit for her mothers horrible comment that wouldn't have happened if teacher hadn't published all kids weights in the first place.

YANBU

Yep, I think it would be an extremely good idea if GM never sets foot in the playground or joins anything to do with school ever again.

It's bad enough that the information was shared, but she was even more in the wrong for singling out somebody else's child and parent for criticism/mockery/bullying.

The positive is that your wife now appreciates how right you were about not sharing the details.

Think the OP is suggesting the other adults will be too embarrassed to do the school run given the nasty comments about another kids weight!

@LemonySnickets thank you!

Thank you!

My daughter does this. Has half a conversation in her head then says the rest out loud, expecting everyone to know what she's talking about

Yeah right

ROFL - I can see that happening some places I've lived..

It's not like it's going to be forgotten though, your wife/her mother may as well brazen it out and keep doing some school runs :)

OP makes perfect sense to me.

What country are you in that it's OK post children's details like that?

I'd absolutely make the one that sent the message continue to do the school run.

Might make them think about their actions in future.

Weight is now like ethnicity, information that some people use for unfair and unnecessary discrimination.