Autistic DH and work ceremony

[WaffleDogg20]

Dh was invited to London today for an award ceremony to celebrate working at the company for 15 years.

dh was diagnosed with autism last year and his work are fully aware. It doesn’t really affect work but he keeps his head down and works bloody hard. In the 10 years we’ve been together he’s had 5 days off sick.

I texted him to ask how it was going and he said rubbish and replied with this-

“ Because everyone else had a talk about when they’d started and what they’ve done in their careeer. Mine was just like he’s known as silent Tom and for wearing colourful socks “

im so angry and upset for him! He won’t say anything obviously but he’s clearly upset. He said he’s hiding in the toilet until lunch is over at 2 :(

That’s so rubbish OP, I’m sorry.

He’s done bloody well to go to the event at all. You’d have thought that his employers would realise this, and would have made an effort for him.

My brother (almost certainly undiagnosed asd) could be similar. But it wasn't normally the real picture.
He's have decided in his head what he thought they would say about him.

Each talk would have started with a few jokey comments (which he'd have ignored for the others as irrelevant) then gone into more serious compliments. Those are what he would have remembered from their stories. He'd have not even registered the jokey comments enough to remember they'd been said as they were so unimportant as far as he was concerned.

Then when they talked about him, he'd have been so confident he knew what was going to be said, he'd have been totally thrown by the opening jokey comments, that those would be all he remembered. I don't think he'd have even heard the rest of what was said.

So in his head everyone else had serious compliments, and he only got made fun of.

Could it be something similar?

No, he very black and white thinking so listens to absolutely everything. Even if I mentioned lipstick I liked years ago he would remember it lol. He’s a signaller for network rail so has to have a good memory and he’s a good listener. He wasn’t expecting there to be a speech or anything. :(