Getting the silent treatment!

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Hubby giving me the silent treatment and kids too. Almost sulking because he can't get his own way but also seems like by doing this he knows he is hurting me but not realising what effect it is having on the kids.

I try to not let it get to me and be strong for the kids but deep down it is upsetting. Especially when he is pushing me away.

I did recently tell him if he wants to go then go but he said he did not want to leave me or the kids.

This isn't normal is it?

Oh by the way, he suffers with mental health issues and above is because me and the kids don't want to move but he does, hence I told him if he wants to go then he can go.

Silent treatment is emotional abuse. He is abusing you and the children.

Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. I would insist he packs and goes whether he wants to or not.

You need to end this. As said he's emotionally abusive to you all and this will affect your children's MH.

It's a form of abuse, designed to keep you in line by "punishing" you so that next time you'll think twice about upsetting him. He has two choices - stop it, or leave.

Wow, I had no idea. We've been together for about 20 years, he has done it a couple of times normally after he has got in a rage. This time no rage or not yet but has just gone into this shutting him self away and giving us the silent treatment and ignoring us and it's been nearly a week now. A lot longer than usual. I have always just put it down to his mental health, which he will not get help with.

psychcentral.com/health/the-silent-treatment

It is called stonewalling. My ex did it. Then when he was ready to talk I just had to get over the fact he hadn't spoken to for a week. The kids are always affected by the atmosphere.

If it helps in any way, my kids are both a lot calmer/relaxed/settled since we split. It was definitely the right decision.

If husband has MH issues, what is he doing to manage that? Minimum should be counselling. I would also highly recommend couples counselling as they go through stonewalling and the seven horsemen. It helps to develop communication also.

But, you and your children don't have to live like that.

He suffers from arseholeitis.

It's affecting both you and the kids so either tell him to straighten his face or he can take his silent treatment elsewhere.

You do not and should not have to put up with that.