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To ask what age, method and how long it took to potty train please?!

54 replies

potttty · 11/04/2024 07:02

Dd 18 months ish. Not sure when to start? She’s my first and I’m a single parent if that’s relevant to how best to do this!

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WhiteLeopard · 11/04/2024 07:05

I have three DC and they were all age 2 (varying between 2y2m and 2y7m). I did cold turkey- nappy came off and never put back on (except at night time). And this was the only time in my parenting when I think that chocolate bribery is completely acceptable!

Revelatio · 11/04/2024 07:06

We did it just after 2. Took a long weekend (think we did it over a bank holiday). No bottoms for the weekend, encouraged them to drink lots and kept the potty close. Poo took a bit longer, but we didn’t go back to nappies at all, just dealt with a bit of extra washing. Also no pants just loose trousers for a few weeks whilst they get used to it. I was dreading it, but it turned out to be really easy.

HAF1119 · 11/04/2024 07:06

Mine was 2y 9m, agreed - choccie button for everything in the toilet! We did 2 for a poo 😂

fuckyourpronouns · 11/04/2024 07:09

Similar to PP - my 2 were 2yrs 3 months or there abouts. I think DD was 2.5

We also did cold turkey method. Once nappy is off, it's off. Except at night as it takes longer for them to be dry at night. It's down to hormones.

Get a potty and get them to sit on it. Lots of clapping and chocolate etc. with inevitable accidents - "oops!" Quick - potty! Tidy up and move on.

We got the larger potties from Ikea as they were more comfortable to sit on. And a proper toilet seat too with the smaller insert for little bums!

The taller "step" stool from Ikea also a win.

mightydolphin · 11/04/2024 07:10

Almost 2 as it was late summer and potty training 'cold turkey' isn't as pleasant for toddlers in the winter! I used the Oh Crap method. It took one very boring weekend watching and waiting around the house and then around two weeks for me to not feel on edge out and about. We left the house on the third day but it was a bit stressful. Worth it for us though.

potttty · 11/04/2024 07:11

Thanks! What happens if they’re at nursery? Do you ask them to follow your method?

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Vettrianofan · 11/04/2024 07:12

8yo and 6yo still have occasional accidents. One getting reviewed for autism. Need prompted still.

SockQueen · 11/04/2024 07:13

Neither of mine (both boys, unsure if relevant) showed any interest or "readiness" ever, so we went cold turkey just after they turned 3. The first day or two were awful and stressful, but by day 3 both cracked wees in the potty and were extremely reliable after that. Poos took a little longer - one of them just an extra few weeks, the other would ask for a nappy if he needed a poo, which went on for a couple more months. I let him do that as he was getting distressed trying to poo on the potty and I didn't want him to start witholding. He got there in the end.

Lots of people swear by "oh crap!" but I found it a bit patronising.

diggermama · 11/04/2024 07:14

Pretty much same as PP's. 2 years 6 months. I referred to it as potty training boot camp 😂 basically locked us in the house over a long weekend. Put all his new pants in a box and let him choose what colour he wanted etc. He lived in a tshirt and pants all weekend. His reward was a pink wafer! I kept asking him if he needed a wee and taking him to the potty etc until he got used to the sensation and knowing he needed to take himself there.
Started Thursday. Went to nursery dry on the Monday (nappy pants at night). Good luck!

Pottedpalm · 11/04/2024 07:14

You might consider reading up on different methods, asking your friends and looking on the section devoted to Potty Training.

tiggergoesbounce · 11/04/2024 07:18

Mine was 22 months by day and then 23 months for night.

We used the book oh crap and followed that. We didn't follow it for night time, from what I remember, when he was reliable by day (took 4/5 days) then we took it off for naps, then left his potty in his room at night and told him to use it through the night and he started using it through the night himself. Obviously it was important they could push their own pants so they were independently using it.

I think the stat is only 5% of kids who don't produce the hormone required to train. The book was great for me, it's all pretty obvious stuff but following it in the right order makes the difference I think. 3 other mums in our group used all with great success, one of the kids was slightly later for night time at 2.years 3 months but still good.

MumOfOneAwesomeHuman · 11/04/2024 07:21

My DD was 2 and we did it over two days with no nappies, a potty, a doll that sees with her own potty and plenty of rewarding for getting it right. You show the doll drinking and weeing in the potty and encourage DC to feed the doll and help her wee, then they copy. My DD was really trained in a few hours tbh but I kept up the protocol of repeating drinking and weeing for doll and dd for the 48 hrs suggested (I used a book but can't recall the name - something like 'potty train in 48 hours' it was quite old school and had admonishments for accidents I think which I just ignored. I only did the reward part). It was super easy and we never had any accidents after the training. I did put her in a pull up at night for about two weeks but we didn't have any wet pull ups so I stopped them too.

DrJoanAllenby · 11/04/2024 07:28

My son (now and adult) was an August baby so in the summer leading up to him turning 2 he was naked in the garden and home as much as possible so he was as more aware of the sensation of wanting to go to the toilet. I used washable nappies which are kinder to the skin than disposable ones which trap the urine so the infant/child is less aware of their bodily functions.

Potty in the garden and the home. Potty was a novelty one in the shape of a turtle which made it more appealing to sit on!

Step in front of each toilet in the home.

I am very fussy and never wanted to cope with a mattress that had been wee-ed on and the plastic sheets were unappealing so I made sure he never wet the bed by making sure last drink of the evening was around 7.30pm and then lifting him out of bed at 11.30pm and sitting him on the toilet so he would have a wee. This was completely successful and he never wet the bed.

When we were out and about I could see when he had ate and drank and would time it to take him behind a tree or large bush etc and aim for a wee and that avoided any accidents in public.

By the time he was 2 in the August he was completely potty trained..

When it came to his younger sister she was absolutely determined that anything he could do, she could do, so she had a string Kinsey to use the toilet like he did. He was almost three years older and by the time she was ready to be potty trained he was no longer using a potty and using the toilet.

The potty was a thing of disgust for her and she didn't want to use it, she wanted to be held and sat on the toilet.

She was 2 in the May of that year and again we started toilet training in the warmer months. I removed the washable nappy in the garden and indoors but she was adamant she would not use the potty and would march to the toilet.

In the early days she made a song and dance about getting on the toilet herself and not wanting to be held until she fell in bottom first! The water touching her bottom upset her so she then agreed to be held and I purchased infant toilet seats to go on top of the toilets in our home.

Her sheer bloody mindedness to be like her brother meant her toilet training was done very quickly and by the end of the summer she was also fully toilet trained.

My children's peers were toilet trained either in the same year or the year after but I have noticed in recent years that children are often older when toilet trained. I don't know why but I imagine it must be much harder for mums to have to cope with nappies for a long period of time.

Skipskipperroo · 11/04/2024 07:31

I've tried a few times since my DD has turned 2 but she had so many accidents in less than an hour that I stopped. My childminder will not help with potty training and she's said they must be able to tell her when they need a wee which my DD isn't able to do just yet. Feel a bit stuck!

HelenHywater · 11/04/2024 07:36

I didn't use any method with mine- I just took the lazy way with each of them. I waited until they asked to be out of nappies and made it very clear they wanted to use the toilet. I didn't use potties. I didn't use pull ups. I then did it over a few days when I knew I was going to be at home. They were dry day and night at the same time and it took days with each. I have several children and it varied from age just 2 to 3.5. It's hard when they are older and you feel the pressure from other people/parents at nursery etc, but honestly, waiting until they were clearly ready was just so easy .

spottydinosaur · 11/04/2024 07:38

Just over 3 for both of mine. Dry in couple of days and dry overnight by the end of the week. Can count accidents with both on one hand

Weallnamechangesometimes · 11/04/2024 07:40

Oh crap, 2 years 1 month and 2 years 4 months

first child boy was done in 4 days had one more accident on day 12 never since. 2nd girl was reliable whilst not wearing trousers but took awhile to get there early enough to get trousers down dry, took a couple of months to be completely out of the take spares with you stage.

potty training especially boys seems to be left until closer to 3 years or beyond for some reason and I certainly had a few disapproving looks (far too early apparently) at toddler groups as I took ds to the toilet.

Didimum · 11/04/2024 07:44

2.5 for my twins. Did them both together with the Oh Crap method. My son took about 5 days, daughter just over a week. It would be my advice to keep them off nursery until they’ve got the basics down, which with the right method shouldn’t take more than a few days.

Didimum · 11/04/2024 07:46

Weallnamechangesometimes · 11/04/2024 07:40

Oh crap, 2 years 1 month and 2 years 4 months

first child boy was done in 4 days had one more accident on day 12 never since. 2nd girl was reliable whilst not wearing trousers but took awhile to get there early enough to get trousers down dry, took a couple of months to be completely out of the take spares with you stage.

potty training especially boys seems to be left until closer to 3 years or beyond for some reason and I certainly had a few disapproving looks (far too early apparently) at toddler groups as I took ds to the toilet.

I also experienced the same attitude with my son. Decided to potty train my twins together at 2.5 and their nursery insisted he wasn’t ready, but that my daughter was. He got it in a few days and was dry at night immediately too. Daughter took much longer!

Urgenthelplease · 11/04/2024 07:49

20 months, used the who gives a crap method. Best thing we've done to be honest. I love not having to change nappies and can't wait to train my next child. She loves being a big girl. Took 6 weeks till there were no accidents. Night time we didn't attempt till almost 3 but again dry within a few weeks.

Rawrrawr1 · 11/04/2024 07:50

We started at 21 months, mainly because it was a bank holiday weekend and also because I was sick of washing nappies (this was only 2 yrs ago) he went commando at home and wore baggy shorts/trousers at nursery for a couple of weeks..nursery were very much on board which helped.
We used the oh crap method in the daytime and he was reliably dry within a few weeks, nighttime took a good 6 months longer.
My take is that its more on you persevering than them, get the wine in as you will need it 😏

Emotionalsupportsnail · 11/04/2024 07:52

Waited til ready. Started going somewhere else to do a poo. Was very easy then.

Weallnamechangesometimes · 11/04/2024 07:55

Didimum · 11/04/2024 07:46

I also experienced the same attitude with my son. Decided to potty train my twins together at 2.5 and their nursery insisted he wasn’t ready, but that my daughter was. He got it in a few days and was dry at night immediately too. Daughter took much longer!

Ds started school nursery at 2 years 10 months and they fell over with shock when I said he was potty trained when they asked me to send in his nappies and wipes. I could see in their eye rolls they thought they were in for multiple accidents a day. I was like no he has been fully potty trained for 9 months.

Funfuninthesunsun · 11/04/2024 07:57

DC 1 - 2.5, did oh crap method as it was the pandemic and had nothing better to do, dry in 48 hours, never had an accident since

DC2 - 2 and 10 months after one failed attempt at home, nursery took the lead and we followed what they did. Took a couple of weeks but has been reliable ever since. We were probably a bit lazy with him because I found it harder with doing the school run, running DC1 to activities etc

Both night dry within two weeks of day dry but that's just sheer good luck.

89redballoons · 11/04/2024 08:02

2 and a half here.

I used the sarah ockwell smith potty training book, which is actually pretty similar to the oh crap method but with a less hectoring tone, and one of them insists that children should go commando at one stage whereas the other one says it is very very important that the child does not ever go commando. Or something.

We did it over a long weekend and by the following Monday DS was wearing pants to nursery. He had a few accidents in the weeks after that but I think after about a month he was pretty reliable. He is 4 now, still wears pullups at night, but has been totally independent without any accidents for at least a year.

I don't know anyone who started at 18 months. All the children I know started at 2 or 3.