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To feel totally fed up

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Muddywalks34 · 10/04/2024 14:55

I’m not very well, haven’t been for a couple of weeks and now on antibiotics for a chest infection. I work from home in a job that no one else can do (sole employee for 3 committee led organisations and it’s year end so I am busy), 2 teens that need to be driven somewhere everyday or if they are at home I have a houseful of other people’s teens as well - we live rurally which was my choice and so therefore it’s only fair they get lifts or friends over (no bus services here), 2 high energy dogs = 2 long walks a day, 2 horses, a big house that this week I am struggling to keep on top off, a husband who is away all week, evening meetings 3 nights in a row. I am knackered, not sleeping due to cough, just sat down for the first time since 6am and have 10 minutes left before I need to jump into action again, I need to leave for work at 6pm and between now and then I have to walk the dogs, sort the horses for the evening, pick DD1 up from her friends house, make tea (it’s a gusto at least so not that much effort) and squeeze in a shower, it’s peeing it down outside and all I want to do is snuggle under a duvet and drink a hot toddy 😂

moan over, I am 100% sure there will be many people having a much worse day than I am so will try and give myself a kick up the bum and my head a wobble

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coxesorangepippin · 10/04/2024 14:56

How are the teenagers contributing to the household?

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/04/2024 14:59

That sounds really tough. Would it be possible for the teenagers to cook for dinner? The instructions are very simple on gousto.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 10/04/2024 15:00

I'd be fed up too. Moan away!

SummerInSun · 10/04/2024 15:04

Definitely sounds like you are entitled to your moan. But I also think it's time to ask the teenagers to step up: "kids, I'm sick and shattered. Please can you sort the dogs and horses for me and make dinner. Im really just not up to it today." Look at it this way - you will be teaching them the importance of looking after your loved ones when they are ill. If you have daughters, you will be teaching them some don't have to be constant martyrs to everyone else; if you have sons you will be teaching them not to assume that mothers are somehow superhuman beings who never need help.

Muddywalks34 · 10/04/2024 15:21

Well I managed to get my arse of the sofa and now out on a muddy walk (when will this miserable weather end).

In terms of my terms we’ll quite frankly they are not helping at all but to be fair eldest is studying for GCSE’s and has also taken it upon herself to get a job so she’s worked a few shifts this week - what time she has left of the holidays in between work and study I am happy for her to be socialising, today I took her for her prom dress fitting at 9, dropped her at her bf’s at lunchtime and will be picking her up after I have sorted dogs/horses

the youngest has pretty much been chilling in bed all day, however it was her birthday earlier in the week, she had 3 friends sleep over last night as part of her celebrations but not sure they got any sleep as she crashed out as the last one was picked up at 11 this morning

they are usually quite helpful but for many reasons this week they have been useless and just been added jobs for a very knackered mum 😬.

I might set them away with the gusto though as your right it’s easy to follow

thabk you all for listening to my moan 😬

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