Want to feel how I felt in my 30’s

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Looking back, I had so much energy and felt so good-completely different to my 40’s
i used to be up at 7, shower, hair washed, make up every day, thought taken with my clothes. I’d drive 45 minutes to work, teach all day, often extra lessons after school, drive the way back, stop for food shopping often, go on my exercise bike, do weights, watch some tv and bed. At weekends I’d often work too-either planning or tutoring/childcare. I felt great, woke up fine in the mornings, rarely felt tired
Fast forward-I got pregnant at 39, had Dd at 40, obviously v tired due to lack of sleep. Got covid in 2020 and quite ill afterwards. Since then I’m just never ever well, always tired, constant illness in winter, chronic kidney stones, barely there periods. I feel like I’m just getting through the days, it’s like wading through mud. Dd sleeps well now, she is very high energy but now at school all day, so I have some quiet time to myself. I work only 5 hours per week and have had to miss some of this sometimes due to kidney stones etc. I miss out on friend meet ups due to feeling ill, I wake up not feeling great, there’s always something-nausea, heartburn, stones, tired, irritable etc etc
Ive had blood tests and have my next Drs appointment end of May.
I just want to live life and not just crawl by

I’m 46 now

Is anyone/has anyone struggled with their 40’s?
Feel like a different person

I would wait and see what the GP suggests. Any chance that hormones are at play too? won't explain all your symptoms but I am feeling much more human since starting HRT.

I know how you feel. I've never been massively energetic but nowadays I don't have the energy to even think sometimes.
I drag myself out of bed to go to work because there is no choice but I leave it til the last possible second. I'm quite often late which never used to happen.

I can't be bothered to plan days out and quite often get out of things I'm invited to because I just can't be bothered.
When I get a cold or illness now it will last ages to get back to normal. I never used to be ill.
I feel like if I exercised and ate clean healthy food it might help, but I just CBA!! Not got the motivation at all.

Also I am.SO forgetful now. It's ridiculous. It's like the low energy levels mean my brain also does not have any energy, as well as the body.

Felt invincible and now feel lazy, fat, tired, achy, moody. Is this just 40s? Surely not!

I know what you mean. I'm 47. Had shingles a year ago which really set me back, not sure if it's post viral fatigue, menopause, depression or a combination of all 3!

I've started HRT which seems to have helped a bit along with iron tablets (had low ferritin)

I also need to lose weight now, the Will is there but I just mostly feel too ill/tired to

i can’t drink anymore, haven’t smoked for years and don’t drink coffee now, I should be the healthiest I’ve been, but I feel the worst

I want to be there for my Dd and be energetic and healthy, I give all my energy and everything to her.

I want to actually get back to work more and get out of the house and get to all my friend meet ups.

Even at 38/39 I was still travelling lots, going to festivals, living life

Could possibly be hormonal too, just feels everything is out of whack and I’m so tired of being in bed ill or on the sofa

That's not age - so it is something else

Symptoms are Consistent with menopause but you need to get other tests done first - even somethings simple like vitamin D and iron deficiency, and once you get run down it's hard to pick up

That's not normal OP, you should persevere with the GP and more blood tests etc. Sounds awful 🙁