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To think people posting when in mental health crisis is bad

20 replies

Gwen777 · 09/04/2024 22:20

Ie multiple crying pictures. Pictures in 136 places of safety. Pictures with fresh injury’s surely your phone is the last thing on your mind

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XenoBitch · 09/04/2024 22:22

So, what is an acceptable way to have a MH crisis then? People cope in different ways, and reach out in different ways too.

Tinydogssitter · 09/04/2024 22:23

Someone who is in a mental health crisis probably isn't thinking particularly clearly.

Acapulco12 · 09/04/2024 22:24

I’m not sure I understand your post fully, but I think what you’re getting at is that people shouldn’t take photos of themselves when they’re really struggling with their mental health. I don’t think I see the problem with it, as like @XenoBitch says, everyone tries to cope with their mental health in different ways.

Sunquest · 09/04/2024 22:24

Surely the fact they are having a MH crisis is why they are not thinking rationally.

Chocolatefrogs · 09/04/2024 22:24

Are you the same poster who posted the thread about buying books just now? Your username is very similar.

teacheroffsick · 09/04/2024 22:24

Posting and getting immediate responses can be very grounding

Tinydogssitter · 09/04/2024 22:25

Everyone is understanding about mental health until someone starts behaving mentally unwell.

Puahi · 09/04/2024 22:28

People who are mentally unwell, tend not to act in a normal and rational way, shocker and sometimes that can mean trying to get attention.
I barely touch my camera normally but when I had my breakdown I was sobbing into my phone filming a video and taking pictures, was it rational, sensible, wise, a normal thing to do? No. But I wasn’t well.

Goawayquickly · 09/04/2024 22:41

This can be how a mental health episode manifests. It can look like attention seeking, I do see that. However, often when someone seeks attention it's because, well, they really need attention (help, understanding, support)

I'm the mum of a young person with severe mental health problems, I know mine sometimes records her feelings and meltdowns. Desperate people need an outlet, I understand that. Nevertheless, I believe social contagion is a real thing and Tiktok worries me particularly for this.

The mental health crisis is often talked about in the media and it's real, horribly real.

I think it's good you've brought this up tbh, it's good that people will read and maybe understand a little better.

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/04/2024 22:42

I trust you've never experienced a mental health crisis OP?

kizziee · 09/04/2024 22:43

You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 09/04/2024 22:43

It's a cry for help as they'll be feeling overwhelmed and not able to cope alone but dont know how to deal with it. Maybe try showing them some compassion

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/04/2024 22:44

Tinydogssitter · 09/04/2024 22:25

Everyone is understanding about mental health until someone starts behaving mentally unwell.

This! 🎯 I spent a lot of time scrolling through Instagram DMing people. God only knows what I sent them...

ForestForever · 09/04/2024 22:48

Pictures in 136 places of safety, what are you talking about? Your post doesn’t even make sense. Not to me at least. If someone you know is behaving irrationally and you care enough about them to start a MN thread about them, put the energy into offering your support directly. Not difficult is it?

middledagedjobseeker · 09/04/2024 22:54

A (section) 136 place of safety is where the court has granted an order to allow the police to enter the person's home and keep them safe until a full mental health assessment can be carried out.

If people in this position post photos etc, they're asking for help as other say. Pictures of fresh self-harm may be triggering for others, but that would be the least of a person's concern when they're in the thick of crisis.

Sometimes people feel so alone that they need some sort of witness to what they're going through, even if it appears not to be helping them at the time.

XenoBitch · 10/04/2024 00:02

middledagedjobseeker · 09/04/2024 22:54

A (section) 136 place of safety is where the court has granted an order to allow the police to enter the person's home and keep them safe until a full mental health assessment can be carried out.

If people in this position post photos etc, they're asking for help as other say. Pictures of fresh self-harm may be triggering for others, but that would be the least of a person's concern when they're in the thick of crisis.

Sometimes people feel so alone that they need some sort of witness to what they're going through, even if it appears not to be helping them at the time.

Nope, a 136 is where the police remove someone from a public place to a place of safety. So, someone on top a car park or something like that.

The one you are talking about is a section 135.

Similar, and both involve police.

MonsteraMama · 10/04/2024 00:05

Ah yes, those people in the midst of mental health crises should definitely stop being so selfish and irrational posting about it. How thoughtless of them.

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 10/04/2024 00:05

God forbid that someone in a bad place uses social media to get support.

It might not be what they would do when thinking rationally, but the 'crisis' part explains a lot.

XenoBitch · 10/04/2024 00:11

It shows some sort of privilege to not know what a MH crisis "should" look like. There is no look, and no "right" way to behave.

We live in an age of access to cameras, internet, and social media. Things play out differently to how they did years ago. People used to be stuck in asylums, and never heard from again. Now, no one is there forever, but they can publish their struggles for the world to see.

My local rag posted an article about a mum who was very worried about her severely depressed daughter, and how she felt let down my MH services. There was a photo of them both, just sat on the sofa... putting faces to names sort of thing. And there were comments about how the daughter didn't "look" depressed, and how someone in MH crisis would not pose for a photo.
It showed a total lack of understanding about these sorts of things.

And having been 136d myself loads of times... it is boring when you are waiting to be assessed. Having access to my phone (which is after a while, not straight away) kept me going in a way. Or was I meant to be rocking back and forth in a corner?

ButterflyKu · 10/04/2024 00:12

Chocolatefrogs · 09/04/2024 22:24

Are you the same poster who posted the thread about buying books just now? Your username is very similar.

I think it’s the same poster, yeah. Funny how they don’t come back to the threads

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