To not send requested photos to dc’s dad?

[Porkipyne]

I have Two children ds (9) dd(8) and there dad is not massively involved. He’s seen them probably collectively for about 6 hours out of choice in the last 3 months and pays child support on an order as he refused to pay on his own accord for over a year. I haven’t heard for him in a couple of weeks and he’s requested photos of the children. It’s really rubbed me up the wrong way as I’ve been a completely solo working parent for the entire Easter holidays without a single break and have taken them to so many lovely places. I am exhausted though and i just feel like he didn’t deserve them. I know it’s petty and will probably cause an argument but I’m tempted to just say that i haven’t taken any photos of them recently and leave it at that. Am I being unreasonable?

Just ignore the request and focus on any other parts of the interaction that you want to respond to.

i have to say sending photos of children that look a bit like yours would be glorious, but probably not wise.

I wouldnt even reply to that request.
He can take his own photos when he spends time with his children

This.

Don’t respond, if he brings it up again just say ‘oh, I did see your message but I was busy and I forgot to reply’

He needs to take his own photographs.

send an old one he's already seen. that way you've sent A photo but not one of your lovely new ones. He doesn't deserve it.
Even better, send him one he's sent you. then act all confused if he says anything. and cackle to yourself.

he's a knob and missing out. you're awesome and your dc are lucky to have you.

I’d send him a photo with you in the middle of the kids (therefore he can’t claim to be parent to the year to the new lady friend) or a blurry far away photo - a bit of malicious compliance - you have been the bigger person in theory and sent the photo but oh well you aren’t very good at taking photos shrug 🤣🤣

You can take photos of the kids when you are looking after them. They could be free to go out with you Saturday from 1pm, I’m sure they’d love a sleepover if you wanted to do a weekend of it.

Send pictures of the 3 of you, with you smack bang in the middle so they can't be edited, arms around each other etc, cheek to cheek😁😁

i would also ignore .

Any response is encouraging this nonsense .

This is what I was going to say.

He 100% wants them for social media. "Miss my kids, haven't been allowed to see them for months. The system is rigged"

Do as pp said and either send him photos of kids that aren't yours, one with you in it or completely ignore him.