to want ex DH to p!ss off and leave me alone!?!?!?!

[JellyNump]

An incredibly long story, we were married about 2 and a bit years, had ds who died and have dd who is just 2. He went completely weird after ds died (which is to some extent understandable) but would just go out and not come home, slept with someone he worked with, then moved departments and started on some other woman and again started to 'go away for weekends alone', accused me of ds death (ds died after an op) etc....we are now divorced.. THANK GOODNESS FOR THAT but he still seems to want to know what i'm doing, where i'm going on holiday, if he can take me out for dinner on valentines day (wtf!?!?) etc etc, i feel like sometimes i have a parrot sat on my shoulder watching my every move

YANBU

Can you gently tell/ask him to move on? Sounds very much like he needs guidence on how to rebuild his life - some help (but* not from you.

It is really annoying to have someone watching your evey move and wanting to know what you are doing - I have been their

We have to keep some kind of contact because of dd, although i have thought long and hard and would be well prepared to tell her when older why i was not happy for her to see her dad and i would absolutely love it if he just left us alone completely.
The other night he text to say he misses me, i told him it was too late and he said he hoped it was never too late and he was moving out of his flat, i asked why and he said he cant afford it (he does have a great tendancy to lie tho). he was trying to find out what chance he had with me and if we would get back together!!! i told him i am happy now and am actually grateful for him giving me a reason to divorce him

Yes you keep the contact due to your dd but it is only contact about your dd and nothing else.

Stop the texts - ignore any that are not concerning your dd and tell him that contact should only be about your dd and you will ignore any other messages or calls. This way you leave him clear to move his social life where he want to and he is under no illusions where he stands with you.

Normally I ignore his texts, this happened to be on ds's birthday tho