Lost a friend because of a crush

[Snoopy104]

Has anybody ever had a friendship tarnished because of an unrequited crush? Or, not necessarily unrequited but a situation in which you couldn't date.
Is the friendship ever the same after? Sadly mine's not, even months later and we used to talk every day.

It took a lot of time but yes.

It was not unrequited but just bad timing (actually multiple occasions of bad timing!) but now we are back to speaking every day and actually work together too.

We are now both in committed relationships with utterly different people and it’s just a point of history for us.

If I had to pinpoint times then the initial crush was him to me was nearly 20 years ago; by the time I returned it the following year it was bad timing for him, although we regularly saw each other at that time. We then realised we needed a break and only occasionally saw each other over the next 6 years or so, until I was pregnant with my first dd.

I guess at that point we were both aware the moment had passed so we could go back to seeing each other and being in contact with each other routinely without either of us getting hurt again.

A few years ago we did some work together which went really well, so now we work on and off together, speak pretty much every day and are every bit as “connected” as we always were - albeit now 100% platonic with no view, desire, risk of it ever being anything other than platonic.

possibly that’s not what you want to hear that it took a decade!