To be pissed off at my siblings

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They both forgot DD's 17th birthday. One forgets all the time so it's nothing new. The other forgot for the first time and did a "oh silly old me, I have the card I forgot to post it" response to my "hi, did you forget?" message .
They didn't pay her much attention when she was younger. They are a fair bit older than me and, I can only assume, were bored of that kind of parent solidarity thing. I paid loads of attention to my nieces and nephews when they were young (their kids).
They could've sent a bloody card or even just a WhatsApp message.
We generally get on pretty well as siblings. In a low level kind of way. But this is so low level it's off the bloody radar.

I thought you were BU until you said that they expected you to remember their kids' birthdays. That isn't on IMO, the double standard would annoy me. Fine if they are just lax, not fine if they expected you to dance attendance and then can't be bothered to reciprocate.

Aunties and uncles weren’t involved by the time I was that age. I shouldn’t think she’s bothered.

@MsLuxLisbon yeah, it was a whole thing

@MsLuxLisbon my parents were a mixed marriage. Most of their siblings actively disowned them apart from one on each side. We, as kids, only heard from the ones who didn't disown them.
So uncles/aunties keeping in touch has a particular resonance for me.
In a way, it's probably a good thing and shows a normal family relationship that they can't be arsed.

Oh we had this, especially with the youngest. We put loads of effort into our various neices and nephews. We were the young fun aunt and uncle.
Most certainly was not reciprocated in particular with our youngest.
Ho hum would do it all again though