To un-friend this ‘friend’ on social media?

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I have a ‘friend’ who I’ve known around 2-3 years now. I have recently distanced myself from her because I’ve come to realise that quite frankly she’s a shit stir and just causes drama and problems in everyone else’s lives - including mine, on more than one occasion.

Examples include causing problems amongst the friendship group with people who don’t get along with each other (going back and telling them what was said on purpose to get a reaction and cause an argument), messaging my ex-partner who she had never even met when drunk at 3am in the morning just to cause issues and then getting her other friend who I don’t get along with to do the same, going around telling everyone your business. She’s just honestly a fucking nightmare, I hardly reply to her messages or answer her phones calls now and if I do I give completely ‘grey rock information’ because I don’t like people like that and she’s the only person in my life actually causing problems for me and I’m not having it.

It’s got to the point where I actually don’t want her seeing what I’m up to or anything so I want to remove her off my social media completely. I know she’ll kick off over this and cause issues and I’ve got my response ready as “you’ve caused a lot of issues for me and you’re meant to be a friend, you never change and it keeps happening and I’m not willing to give this friendship another chance therefore it’s not compatible anymore and I don’t want you knowing anything about my life because you’re a gossip”. The other part of me just can’t be bothered with the fallout that’s going to come from it.

AIBU? What would you do?

You can change settings per person on Facebook, so I think you could 'keep' her on there, but restrict access to your profile, iyswim?

Honestly I'd just unfriend them! You can unfollow and mute, but if you're genuinely not wanting friendship with her (justifiably so!) then why muck around. I've "culled" my friends list and it feels much nicer just seeing things from people I actually like 😂

Just block her from your posts, you.can exclude people per post.

Yeah I think this will be easier - it seems like a lot of effort to change all my settings across all of my social media’s for someone who I don’t particularly like anymore 😅

Unfriend her, block her and remember you don't owe her any explanation as to why you've done it.

Unfriend her.

I work on the basis that if I wouldn't ask someone to go for a coffee sometime, such as if I bumped into them in the street, they aren't in my life in such a way that I want them to be privy to my social media.

I also don't do pity friending / accepting acquaintances / husband's friends / any friend's partners or kids on Facebook unless they are actually a good friend themselves.

Unfriend her and if she asks why tell her the truth. It sounds like she needs someone calling her out on her behaviour and if you do it then others might follow.

Shes behaving like that because she gets away with it, I bet if she’s confronted she’ll back down.

If all else fails give her some protein weight gain bars and run her over with a bus 😂.

You could tell her your profile was hacked so you’ve set up a new one and only added a few family and friends because you’re also trying to wean yourself off it as you’ve found it all a bit negative recently.

Block and don't respond let her kick off just don't put yourself anywhere near her to allow her projections land done the exact sake thing last week after a 25 year friendship hun boundaries are a good thing 👌😊🌸