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What would you do

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cloudxo · 07/04/2024 19:06

Okay I'll keep it short basically earlier on today I was upstairs sleeping with my daughter because I didn't feel well, my partner was downstairs, he was listening to the song beautiful girl by Sean Kingston.. recorded a snip of the song and sent a message to someone saying I listen to this when I miss you and the kids, initially I thought it was coming to me, but it didn't.. so I thought nothing of it and thought maybe his sister or something, it's been playing on my mind for hours I looked on his phone recently to make a call and there are no messages to his sister, just his friends and obviously it's not going to his friends.. now I'm paranoid if I mention it he's obviously going to deny and I can't prove anything either.. and it will more that likely cause an argument. So what would you do?

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quizzys · 07/04/2024 19:26

"I heard you sending me that lovely message earlier, but I didn't get it yet, where is it!"

WishesPromised · 07/04/2024 19:28

Do some digging without him knowing.

cloudxo · 07/04/2024 19:29

DojaPhat · 07/04/2024 19:23

Other than this is there anything else that makes you feel suspect about his fidelity?

And why would you look at his call records rather than messages / whatsapp or any other messaging app. It's possible to hide certain conversations within messaging apps but then you'd have noticed he's very particular with his phone.

Having said all this - it really could just be nothing. It's a bit of an odd song in the context of sending it to someone when he misses 'them' and the kids.

I suppose a couple things yeah, I'm quite chilled out and layed back to be fair so usually I don't think into things, but this has got my mind racing, he's up at night for hours when I'm asleep downstairs, never really questioned what doing I just assume his chilling out while the house is peaceful, has a tendency for accusing mr of being suspicious ect. He usually lets me on his phone whenever I want but anything can be deleted and removed

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cloudxo · 07/04/2024 19:29

WishesPromised · 07/04/2024 19:28

Do some digging without him knowing.

This is what I was thinking, maybe stay quiet for now and see what else come from it

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Freeme31 · 07/04/2024 19:29

Can you ask to look at his phone? Or does he have an ipad linked to the phone you could look at

coastalhawk · 07/04/2024 19:29

Don't confront, just ask, without any accusation, as it's totally normal to be concerned and wonder if your partner said that and to who. Asking is fine.

MassiveOvaryaction · 07/04/2024 19:49

Benefit of the doubt option: Has it been windy where you are? The mobile mast by us (we're pretty rural, there's just the one) has been out for a week or so. I don't get text messages unless I'm away from home.

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