Say something or leave it?

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8 year old went to a party today. They made paper aeroplanes and were sending little messages to each other. DD sent one saying hi and two girls that were at the party sent one back saying “piss off bitch”. Would you say anything to their parents or just leave it and educated DD how to respond to this next time?
YABU= just leave it
YANBU = let the parents know

How well do you know the parents? How do you think they might respond. I’d worry speaking to parents could escalate things. But I know that’s a bit cowardly. Does your daughter want you to do anything?

Strange.let parents know...I want too..have dd that age...I'm vvvvv happy for other parents to parent her and will deal with. It if she was wrong ..we talk about how the other person feels In Harry Potter and other books...I want to know..tell the parent

I'd put on a table next to parents and say I'll leave this thanks , my DD doesn't need this as a momento of the party , what a shame as I thought they were all getting along nicely

I would say something - it’s not so much the language but more the fact they think it’s ok to treat other children in such a horrible way. Does your daughter know them?

If you have the plane take a photo and oit it on the wider groups in a "I don't know who..." type of message.

DD has previously been friends with them so I know parents sort of from that time but they’ve grown apart and they recent called my DD weird etc. DD initially told me not to say anything but this evening has said that she wants me to say something. She’s neurodiverse so it’s quite black and white to her. They did something mean so they should be told off.
I think I’m going to message. Thank you!

I think you’re doing the right thing by telling them. They may not care, but there’s a chance they will be shocked and talk to their kids about it. I don’t know how else this kind of behaviour gets stopped. At 8 too!! Hope your lovely DD is ok.

I'd have to say something. I was bullied a lot as a kid and am so grateful my mam stood up for me. If the kids are being nasty and spiteful like this now, you can only imagine what they will be like as teenagers.

I would like to hope (but probably wishful thinking) that the parents don't know their children are behaving like this and will suitably take them to task when informed.

I'd have to say something, that's not on at any age - let alone 8!

At 8 I would definitely let say something..

If my daughter sent this to someone at 8, it would be time for a life lesson in how bullying affects people and whether she wants to be the person who causes someone emotional pain and ruins their confidence or not?

Definitely say something, why wouldn't you?

8?! No. Say something.

Would be really interested to hear what you end up saying and how they react, please update up! ❤️