Cutting ties

[KittenCatt]

My friend and I met when we started school, and we have been friends ever since.

Though, over the last few years she has been going on a lot of expensive holidays and bars and has been posting them all over social media etc.

We met up for cocktails a while back and when the bill came, she realised she didn’t have any money. She then phoned her Nan and asked her for money, but I told her I’d pay for everything, and she can pay me back for her share once she gets paid.

My DM bumped into her DM in town recently. Her DM told my DM that my friend has just returned from a holiday to Dubai. When she visited her mother, she asked her for money. Then as soon as she was given the money, she left and went home!

Her Nan and mother are both extremely vulnerable and I feel that they’re being taken advantage of by my friend.

I’m absolutely appalled by friend’s behaviour. Would I be unreasonable to cut ties with her, even though it has nothing to do with me?

No , you would not be unreasonable. This person is an addict of sorts. They will never learn until they lose near enough everyone.

Ouch. Not unreasonable. I take it that any attempt to warn the vulnerable mother and nan would fall on deaf ears?

I’ve been tempted, but I keep thinking it’s done of my business. Would hate to cause a family upset

@KittenCatt I think they would just not see it and blame you for telling them, not her for being exploitative. But you would have tried to open their eyes to it.

I certainly don't think you are being unreasonable to cut her out of your life and not get involved with any of the mess she's making.

Did she pay you back?