Husbands hair cut

[Createausername1234]

Hello,
My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He never cuts his hair or trims his beard unless I remind him. Generally he needs a lot of reminders for other areas of his life too.
I see most men look so well put together and I am wondering do you all remind your partners for haircuts or do they do it by themselves please?
thanks a lot!

I’ve never told my husband to shave or get his hair cut, or reminded him/suggested it or in any way been involved in how it looks.

Mine goes to the barbers once a week which I think is ridiculous

Does he tell you when he wants you to cut your hair too?

It’s never occurred to me to remind DH to get haircut or beard trim. He was in the army so was expected to look after himself. He’s always in the bathroom trimming and brushing his hair or beard.
I do remind my sons though. I have told them when they are at uni they’ll need to organise it themselves. They’ll probably get it cut when they come home. I can’t imagine either of them finding somewhere new DS1 because he wouldn’t even think about it and DS2 because he’d be too scared 😟

Married 34 years, together 40 and have never once had to remind my husband to shave or get a haircut. He is well groomed and doesn’t need telling. My father and brother were/are also able to keep themselves clean and groomed.

I give dh a number 1 haircut so he tells me when his hair needs done

Ok I'm male. I'm 55 married for 30 years. Happy I add. I don't have much hair, but cut it regularly, shave every other day. Wash/shower daily. Dress well, iron shirts, match clothes....I'm not looking for anyone else...just think it important to look, smell and appear good.
Sounds like your partner has the attitude he doesn't have to make the effort...perhaps you need to tell him he does.
Btw my wife has a favourite jumper she loves and I hate...she would wear it all the time if I didn't steal it to wash...she does it to annoy me!

No never that's not normal ,sorry .

Maybe he doesn't want a haircut?

In 34 years, I have never , ever suggested that my husband needs a haircut or a beard trim.

His body , his choice.

My husband is bald.

@Elvis1956
My husband has a linen jacket that , I'm sure, was at Waterloo. Holes, split seams, worn patches , threadbare collar but it comes out every year in the summer. I'm pretty sure even Monty Don wouldn't wear it to turn his compost heap over.

It embarrasses me. But he loves it and I'd never stop him from wearing it.
And yes , I've done a shit ton of repairs but there's only so much you can do.

I tell/remind mine to have a shower and cut his toenails

Nope, never.

My husband's hair (head and facial) grows at a rate of knots, and he likes to err..,mix it up, keep it fresh, like. 😬

He's had top knots, number 1's and everything in between. He'll emerge from the bathroom half an hour before we leave for a night out with a 70's pornstar moustache, or mutton chops. Good job I love him.

My husband has curly hair, he has it cut maybe once a season as thats all it needs to maintain the style, I wouldn’t suggest he cuts it, his hair is his to do as he pleases with. I haven’t had my haircut in about five years and I might never cut it again.

No. I am married to an adult.

I have never had to tell my husband to get his hair cut, what with him being a grown-up and all.

I do remind DH to get his hair trimmed. He doesn't spend much time looking in the mirror and doesn't notice when it's gone a bit TinTin...

@Createausername1234 - you mentioned

Generally he needs a lot of reminders for other areas of his life too.

Which suggests there may be something else going on. Do you think there is? How does he get on at work?

My DH has his cut every so many weeks like clockwork. I actually think that it looks best a little bit longer and it never quite reaches that stage as he keeps it quite short… so I’d quite like it if he forgot the cut once in a while but hey ho.

I’ve never prompted him to cut it.

I have suggested a shave or beard trim on occasion before it gets too bushy. I like it as stubble or a very short beard.

He sorts his own haircuts himself, but I will ask him to shave if his beard gets too scruffy looking. Plus it hurts to kiss if prickly!

Thank you all! Long hair doesn’t suit him especially around ears, it looks really overgrown. He has hairy nostrils, hairy earlobes. He has dandruff but feel that none of that matters to other people. I am also feeling that my standards are coming down and I am not ashamed anymore of stepping out without looking neat and my fear is that I will slowly become a full blown version of my husband. I want to avoid that stage🙄

Maybe try not reminding him for, say, a year? See if he notices it himself, his hair and beard getting longer and longer.

Surely his hair is his choice not yours?

how would you feel if he started passing comments on how you looked ?