To put every toy my kid owns in the garage

[Destroythetoys]

I’m doing it now and fuck me it FEELS GOOD.

He can have them back when he can play with them.

He is too young to play with them or?

No context .. no age …

sounds like a complete over reaction to something . What are you leaving your child to do.

What do you mean what am I leaving my child to do?

He has a train set, empties rhe pieces on the floor then walks off

ditto tool box

ditto vets set

even the fucking rocking horse has its saddle and bridle taken off countless times a day

so they are all going

Oh dear.
A normal child.

I don’t think he is normal. I’m always being told on here kids love train sets duplo etc mine just throws them all over the floor

oh and I’ve left the other one screaming as I’m done with that one too. I am fucking done. I wish there was an SOS line you could call where you say you know what, my limit is reached, get my kids, I don’t fucking want them.

Either he's a normal 2-3 year old, or an older child playing in an atypical way which may hint at developmental differences, either way give his toys back and tidy up each evening once he's asleep.
How are you expecting him to learn to play if he doesn't even have any toys there

I think that's called Social Services...

at this moment in time split I could not care less

he gets to play at preschool and I do actually take him out a lot. But I cannot keep doing this, I really, really cannot.

I have left some toys but the toolbox, the vet set, the train table and parts and the horse have gone. I’m a bit gutted as the train set in particular cost quite a bit and he does actually play with them at nursery so thought he’d like it but evidently not.

i need to think of my own mental health. I matter too.

That sounds really difficult for you, OP. If you can get them outside, that often helped when I was done with my little toddlers. One headphone in so I could listen to something for myself and a bit of a walk outside rather than being stuck in the messy loud house.

Sounds normal but also hard. Don't take away all the toys. You don't want your stuff tipped everywhere either.

Sounds like a tough day. I've been there and felt the same way. Days when it feels like you live in the re-use shop at the local tip and you wish there was an orphanage nearby accepting deliveries.

And we’re always being told to rotate toys on here so I do that and get all the mn pursed lips haha

Reading your update, it sounds like you've reached your limit with stress. Stick the kids infront of the TV or give them tablets in bed and get an early night yourself, and see if anyone can help you with the kids tomorrow if you can

If this level of stress isn't a one off then you can phone your health visitor or social services for support too.
The absolute last thing they would so is take the children away or anything, really they don't have the placements even for children highly at risk unfortunately, but they are a good resource for support whether that's some respite care, financial support options or helping build a support network etc.

Thank you

limit is reached and surpassed in fact

the thing is I know from my line of work it’s really bad for kids behaviour to live in chaos, same with a nursery, if you went in and it was just an absolute tip no one can play properly and it just doesn’t look inviting

Is there anyone in real life who can help you right now? I was going to say yabu, but from your update, I can see you have obviously had enough. Please reach out to someone in real life right now. Kids can test our patients, especially when we we're tired and not getting a break. It can be relentless, but it's no one's fault.

I know they won’t take the children away so I’m not ringing them.

I actually feel like they play better with less toys. Sometimes our toys just get to the point where they are a big jumble - I do a clear out and everyone plays better for a while. Water helps - I throw my littlest in the bath when she’s wound up. Hope your ok OP and bedtime goes well and everything looks better in the morning.

If you sincerely need them to they would.
But if that's not what you want they are there for other support.

If you genuinely think you need the children away for safety/MH reasons, you can phone ss or the police though.
It's hard to tell online how bad the situation is.

Your children come first. By all means put some away, rotate them so that he plays with them more appropriately .

Let’s not get into a SS discussion. Anyway both kids are asleep, first time I’ve done CIO (except car etc) but I’ll probably do it again, bloody worked.

We put about 95% of our toys in the loft and life is so much better. My 2 & 4yo suddenly have incredible imaginations, or actually play with their remaining toys, and I'm not so annoyed about picking up stuff that only ever gets chucked on the floor!

Good for you, OP.

Have some time to yourself now, I hope tomorrow is a better day.

It's after 8pm, I think at this point just get them in bed. If they are wired up give them a bath or put in pjs and drive till they are asleep.

Then when you have had a chance to calm and reflect start a new thread and see if we can help with the bigger situation. As another poster said it's hard to gauge how bad it is online are you talking sort your life out TV show style mess at home or a few mixed up toys. It may be that his play skills aren't as expected and this isn't as obvious at nursery where staff set up activities and play alongside in which case there are strategies to help. It may be you need better toys storage that kids can help out away reaching against a timer or that mission impossible song.

But seriously that sounds like an issue for another day, go tell your kids you love them, hug them so they don't feel punished and then get them asleep and yourself drive thinking space.

I did similar once, looking back the trashing of toys at home was a sign my child was masking autism. It took many years for school to agree with me, and even longer for a diagnosis. I felt overwhelmed a lot because I was burning myself out due to the additional demands of being a parent carer as well as a parent to other Dc and working and studying. It was all too much. And I actually did ring the social services once. I said I was done. Then told me it didn't work like that! But it was a sign that the amount of stress I was under was too much, and that my child's needs were outside of the 'norm' and that started us on the long pathway to diagnosis

@Destroythetoys take a deep breath and attempt to relax.
Are the children in bed?
Forget about the toys for now.
Does he know how to play with his toys?
The tool set - does he know he needs to pretend to fix things?
Vet set - does he have cuddly toys of animals? Does he know that he should take the kitty's temperature, wrap a bandage round his tail and then tuck him into a blanket?
Train set - does he know how to set it up, that there should be a station with people standing on it, a place for the trains to park etc?
Children are given lots of toys - but many need to actually be shown how to play with them.

Within reason, I think limiting toys is actually a good thing. I culled about 2/3rds of our toys and put them in the garage and actually I haven’t even bothered to rotate them/ get them back out.

I’ve left trains, blocks, stickle bricks, duplo, horse set, garden flower set thing, planes/runway, ball pit, paw patrol tower, play kitchen, ice cream set, magma tiles, garage and cars and even writing it out has made me feel it’s a lot and I’m going to cull it again! I honestly don’t know how it has all crept up but the mess is stressful and I’m going to pack some more away.