When my granny died she left money for my mum to invest in a flat for her 3 grandchildren. In 1997 mum bought a lovely 4 bed maisonette in a nice area. We had tenants until 2003 and when they moved out my middle brother and I moved in to renovate it room by room. We replaced the 2 bathrooms, the cloakroom and the kitchen, removed wallpaper, plastered, sanded and painted walls, etc (I paid for the paint and furniture and any workmen when required etc as I had a job and my brother didnt - altho my dad also helped out alot as a plumber/electrician). I also coordinated and paid all the bills as my brother was always depressed and never worked. This wasn't a quick job and by 2010 I wanted to split the flat in 2 as I was fed up of looking after this large property and my brother but I loved the area. I knew we could sell it but my brother was so drugged up all the time that I was fearful if he was given a large sum of money he would just spend it on drugs and alcohol....if it was split I could still keep an eye on him but not be so responsible. For various reasons it kept falling through and last year my younger brother asked for his third share in the flat so he could go buy his own place. I coughed up the money and my depressed brother refused so my mum gave the money to the younger one. Its now 2024. I am 44. Ive been trying for a baby (on my own for last 4 years - I never met anyone as I think everyone thinks am probably weird; looking after and sharing a flat with my brother). Last year I gave up work to focus on my last embryo/ round of IVF and clear out the flat. Unfortunately it failed in Feb and I've been quite distraught. I've managed to get part-time work and it's nose to the grindstone for the next 10 days for a deadline. Today I kept accidentally leaving a hallway door open and was screamed at and told I had 3 options: split the flat, clear it up and sell it or he'd be contacting his lawyer. I screamed back that maybe if he could afford a lawyer he could afford to give me half the money for the bills and pay for food. Ive spent tens of thousands of pounds subsidising his lifestyle for the past 21 years. The flat is now quite rundown again as I've refused to spend any more of my money refurbishing it until a decision was made. I want to focus on another final round of IVF not the flat or his demands. I get we were spoilt by our granny but I feel like this flat has ruined my life. Ive spoken to my mum and brother and both of them say they're in the middle. I asked if my brother can move in with my parents and he's refused. AIBU? I'm still the one paying all the bills - do I have no rights in anything?