To take some time off work with stress and anxiety

[Whatisenoughh]

I’ve not been feeling right for a long time but my mental wellbeing is really low at the moment.

Without going into too much, im feeling really unvalued at work and to be honest i think ive done all i can there, 7 years in and no progression and i want to leave. I fed feeling unvalued back and asked what i can do to improve after months of pondering whether to and feeling silly, and they were apologetic, said I have nothing to improve on or do as I’m good at what I do, but nothing has changed. I get I’m paid to do what I’m doing but it feels like I’m purposely left out of employee recognition things.

im shattered at home, husband works long hours and doesn’t help when at home with our young children. Feel like a single mum and a maid to my husband. And he’s moody all the time. Today he had a day off, he’s just been in bed all day because he stayed up late watching tv, he’s out all night tonight with friends and I’m left with the kids, which I don’t mind but we never do anything together.

Im just feeling really down, on edge, anxious and feel not good enough.

im so upset about work i dont want to face going in.

would i be unfair to take some time out to focus on myself, going off with stress?

Well, if you are ill, you can take time off work sick, of course. But how are you going to address your stress levels? Could you take leave? How long do you think you would be absent for?

I was going to ask for a referral for cbt or something, I was thinking a couple of weeks off

Take time off but you may find it more difficult to return. Seek positive help
Good luck

Take the 2 weeks off! Your GP will likely support this. I think they're pretty good with this sort of thing.

I cannot advocate counselling enough. I pay to speak to a private female counsellor. I think the quality and the wait on the NHS is dire. Counselling is so helpful in talking things through, making plans, making sense of what you want and moving forward. You've got alot going on right now - work, kids, husband. It's alot and you probably feel very alone. I don't think you need CBT! You don't in my view have disordered thinking. You just want someone to listen to you and support you in making some decisions. You could start by just doing a quick online search for women( I do advise women for us females) in your area.