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To think the UK has gone to hell in a handcart?

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Superlambaanana · 06/04/2024 12:01

I’m just so fed up hearing about powerful people (usually men) getting away with things. It seems to have become the norm for them to do whatever the hell they like with zero consequences beyond a bit of handwringing in the media, which dies down fairly quickly, and never results in anything changing or being overturned. Leaving us ‘little people’ just having to suck it up.

Examples:

P&O sacked 800 workers in 2022. The CEO, Peter Hebblethwaite even admitted it was illegal. Yet nothing was ever done about it and he’s still CEO!

Liz Truss’s honours list. Bit of a roasting in the press for a day or two, but all the Truss supporters still got their honours in the end. Add to that Boris Johnston’s and the very dubious Charlotte Owen, and now Rishi Sunak creating a whole new honours round to make sure some party donors were rewarded in a blatant exercise in corruption.

Prince Andrew. Apparently still thinking of making a return to public life!!!!!! I mean, wtaf?!!!!!!

Michelle Mone. Has she really faced any actual consequences?

Phillip Scofield. Cheats on wife, bullies colleagues and his boyfriend, but achieves victim status because he was coming out of the closet.

Post Office scandal. Yes it’s managed to get some traction, but people will tire of it eventually and I bet that happens long before the sub-post masters get any justice or decent compensation.

Cost of living crisis and energy companies making absolute fortunes at all our expense with no prospect of bills actually coming back down to where they should be - no, instead we should be happy that they aren’t going up just as fast as last year!

Water companies. Borrowing money to give shareholders big payouts instead of actually managing the water and sewage systems to the extent that rivers are now full of faeces.

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0sm0nthus · 06/04/2024 17:39

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 17:25

The Queen personally lobied the then Tory Government (and naturally succeeded) to change laws in her and her family's favour. This included the concealment of "her embarrassing private wealth" from the public and to ensure that her household remained exempt from laws around race and sex discrimination. She held immense offshore investments that avoided taxation in the UK (and which still does) and Charles' inheritance from her is tax free.

In fact she personally ensured that she and her family were exempt from a staggering 160 laws granting her sweeping immunity from swathes of British law ranging from animal welfare to employees' rights.

Yes, there was an iron fist in that velvet glove.
She had the sense to keep her mouth shut though, which meant people tended to believe the façade.

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 17:43

0sm0nthus · 06/04/2024 17:39

Yes, there was an iron fist in that velvet glove.
She had the sense to keep her mouth shut though, which meant people tended to believe the façade.

Quite. We were sold (are still being sold) the sweet, dutiful, lovable, almost vulnerable "one of us" rhetoric. They are not, she was not. Their primary objective is self preservation and that of their obscene privilege.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 06/04/2024 17:48

Alstreena · 06/04/2024 17:25

I think we should all be glad that we live in UK where at least we have a vote.

Imagine living in the Middle East in some theocratic regime where, if you go out onto the streets to protest about something you get shot. 🙁

Give Braverman, Badenoch, Sunak & Co another 5 years, and you won't need to do any imagining.

OnlyTheBravest · 06/04/2024 17:58

I love my country but there are improvements that could be made and it has to come from all sections of society.
When you have the people in charge just rolling over it and making a mockery of laws/morals. You can not expect everyone else to toe the line.

Tony Blair going to war when the country begged him not to. No accountability for the consequences that followed.
Nick Clegg sold his election promises on uni tuition fees to get into power. No accountability for the consequences that followed.
David Cameron offered a referendum without setting the conditions properly, promised to deal with the outcome either way, then promptly ran away. How he is back in government has me completely flummoxed. No accountability for the consequences that followed.
And the list goes on and on and on.

You can defiantly feel the change out there. People are becoming more selfish and inward looking and those who just want a fair society are hurting because they remember how it used to be. Was it perfect no but a damn sight better than it is now.

Liloona · 06/04/2024 18:00

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 06/04/2024 17:48

Give Braverman, Badenoch, Sunak & Co another 5 years, and you won't need to do any imagining.

Come on, they're toast at the next election and they know it.

Tiredalwaystired · 06/04/2024 18:01

I think you were spot on until you added Philip Schofield to that list. Whatever he did do / didn’t do was a matter for him and his family and isn’t really anything to do with the rest of us.The media just made it everyone’s business. If you add him then you need to add everyone who ever had an affair (I mean, maybe you do). What he did was highly ill advised, but not illlegal.

if anything I think his punishment has been far more extreme than it deserved as his career is over. I mean, Ant McPartlin nearly killed a kid drunk driving but the world seems to have conveniently forgotten that one.

The others are legit examples of the few shitting on the many and getting away with it.

0sm0nthus · 06/04/2024 18:03

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 17:43

Quite. We were sold (are still being sold) the sweet, dutiful, lovable, almost vulnerable "one of us" rhetoric. They are not, she was not. Their primary objective is self preservation and that of their obscene privilege.

Agree, although I tend to see this as a 'human nature problem'.
What I mean is that all animals need to have a deep instinct to hold onto any resources or territory that they gain, other wise the species will not survive. Humans here are expressing the same deep instinct, no-one cedes power willingly, the more of it you have the greater your desire & ability to extend and defend it. This is why power corrupts, we always want more of it and given free reign (including the belief that it is deserved) we will take all we can.
What we need is mitigations put in place to check power BEFORE it gets entrenched and out of control.

dontcallmelen · 06/04/2024 18:05

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 14:08

He was rotten to the core, a liar, a misogynist and flakey as fuck but I lived as an adult through the Thatcher era. She was the first to open the sewer gates and start the dismantling process of anything decent in society, along with citizens rights. Successive Tory governments have returned to try to finish the job but this one has actually succeeded.

Absolutely, we became the spivs of Europe selling off our infrastructure & dismantling communities instead of investing in people & places.
no civilised society should have utilities/transport/social care/childrens services etc in private hands, it’s always ends up that those on the receiving end of these services suffer whilst the shareholders gain. Tis a low bar that we console ourselves other countries are worse, it really shouldn’t be such a race to the bottom & the strokes that this cess pit of a government have pulled & continue to do so practically every day is shameful.

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 18:07

0sm0nthus · 06/04/2024 18:03

Agree, although I tend to see this as a 'human nature problem'.
What I mean is that all animals need to have a deep instinct to hold onto any resources or territory that they gain, other wise the species will not survive. Humans here are expressing the same deep instinct, no-one cedes power willingly, the more of it you have the greater your desire & ability to extend and defend it. This is why power corrupts, we always want more of it and given free reign (including the belief that it is deserved) we will take all we can.
What we need is mitigations put in place to check power BEFORE it gets entrenched and out of control.

Totally agree. The RF are the ultimate self preservation society and, given their unimaginable privilege and wealth, who can honestly blame them. It's wrong, very wrong, but human nature nonetheless.

User135644 · 06/04/2024 18:07

Superlambaanana · 06/04/2024 12:01

I’m just so fed up hearing about powerful people (usually men) getting away with things. It seems to have become the norm for them to do whatever the hell they like with zero consequences beyond a bit of handwringing in the media, which dies down fairly quickly, and never results in anything changing or being overturned. Leaving us ‘little people’ just having to suck it up.

Examples:

P&O sacked 800 workers in 2022. The CEO, Peter Hebblethwaite even admitted it was illegal. Yet nothing was ever done about it and he’s still CEO!

Liz Truss’s honours list. Bit of a roasting in the press for a day or two, but all the Truss supporters still got their honours in the end. Add to that Boris Johnston’s and the very dubious Charlotte Owen, and now Rishi Sunak creating a whole new honours round to make sure some party donors were rewarded in a blatant exercise in corruption.

Prince Andrew. Apparently still thinking of making a return to public life!!!!!! I mean, wtaf?!!!!!!

Michelle Mone. Has she really faced any actual consequences?

Phillip Scofield. Cheats on wife, bullies colleagues and his boyfriend, but achieves victim status because he was coming out of the closet.

Post Office scandal. Yes it’s managed to get some traction, but people will tire of it eventually and I bet that happens long before the sub-post masters get any justice or decent compensation.

Cost of living crisis and energy companies making absolute fortunes at all our expense with no prospect of bills actually coming back down to where they should be - no, instead we should be happy that they aren’t going up just as fast as last year!

Water companies. Borrowing money to give shareholders big payouts instead of actually managing the water and sewage systems to the extent that rivers are now full of faeces.

😩😫😩😫😫😩😫😩😫😫😩

Mostly men but two of your examples are Truss crashing the economy and the disgrace of Michelle Mone.

0sm0nthus · 06/04/2024 18:12

who can honestly blame them. It's wrong, very wrong, but human nature nonetheless
@ginasevern human nature also contains a deep drive for fairness & justice, primates also express this drive:

blue345 · 06/04/2024 18:12

What he did was highly ill advised, but not illlegal.

That depends on whether you believe there was underage grooming. The photos (now deleted) certainly suggest there was contact well before 16 and MM wasn't the only one to receive questionable Snapchat messages from PS. Clever move to cough up for an NDA so the finer details won't be shared.

Anyway, I'd say the biggest issue now is a collective selfishness. People chucking rubbish on the floor, being antisocial on trains etc, being disrespectful to teachers. All small things but add up to a society that isn't much fun to live in.

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 18:15

dontcallmelen · 06/04/2024 18:05

Absolutely, we became the spivs of Europe selling off our infrastructure & dismantling communities instead of investing in people & places.
no civilised society should have utilities/transport/social care/childrens services etc in private hands, it’s always ends up that those on the receiving end of these services suffer whilst the shareholders gain. Tis a low bar that we console ourselves other countries are worse, it really shouldn’t be such a race to the bottom & the strokes that this cess pit of a government have pulled & continue to do so practically every day is shameful.

Very well put. Even Harold MacMillan (a Tory grandee and former Prime Minister) said at the time that "she was selling off the family silver". It's unlike me to quote a Tory but this rather sums it up. Anyone who thinks the Tories care about anything but the hierarchy of establishment and the rich need to read the history books, and they don't have to go back very far.

pimplebum · 06/04/2024 18:18

Go live in Rwanda then or Gaza see how you like that !

Phillip Schofield has lost everything and all he did was have an affair ( not nice but many , many others have done similar and carried on with careers ie Richard and Judy were both married to other people when they got together

Same for prince Andrew he has lost his reputation and 12 million his achual crime is allegedly slept with a legal aged woman, not underage , not rape

Hardly no consequences

Geebray · 06/04/2024 18:18

ginasevern · 06/04/2024 18:15

Very well put. Even Harold MacMillan (a Tory grandee and former Prime Minister) said at the time that "she was selling off the family silver". It's unlike me to quote a Tory but this rather sums it up. Anyone who thinks the Tories care about anything but the hierarchy of establishment and the rich need to read the history books, and they don't have to go back very far.

So why didn't Tony Blair renationalise the utilities?

Do we really think Keir Starmer is going to? 🤔

DiamondArtists · 06/04/2024 18:29

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Tiredalwaystired · 06/04/2024 18:36

blue345 · 06/04/2024 18:12

What he did was highly ill advised, but not illlegal.

That depends on whether you believe there was underage grooming. The photos (now deleted) certainly suggest there was contact well before 16 and MM wasn't the only one to receive questionable Snapchat messages from PS. Clever move to cough up for an NDA so the finer details won't be shared.

Anyway, I'd say the biggest issue now is a collective selfishness. People chucking rubbish on the floor, being antisocial on trains etc, being disrespectful to teachers. All small things but add up to a society that isn't much fun to live in.

Then it’s a police matter. If he ends up imprisoned I’ll agree it’s illegal. So far that hasn’t happened.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 06/04/2024 18:48

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/04/2024 12:37

You’re not wrong OP it’s the lack of consequences/accountability I struggle with.

the line from the great gatsby resonates with me about all this “They were careless people, Tom and Daisy- they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made” they have smashed everything up and then fucked off with their wealth leaving other ppl to try and sort it out

The last person I remember who took responsibility for their actions/department and resigned out of principle, not for their own political future, was Lord Carrington, over the Falklands, I think, under the Thatcher government. Maybe Heseltine and Westland, also under Thatcher? But ever since then, it seems to me, political resignations have been for personal reasons rather than principles.
I'm sorry, I'm not sure if that makes sense, what I'm struggling to express is that it seems to me that when British politicians resign these days, it is to serve their own ends, rather than out of a sense of duty to their country.

AStepAtaTime · 06/04/2024 19:42

The media are the worst. A total law unto themselves, wielding the power to turn public opinion and embarking on trials by innuendo. The media is too powerful actually for our own good. They can quite literally influence an outcome.

Superlambaanana · 06/04/2024 19:53

Pantaloons99 · 06/04/2024 15:29

I agree OP. I've been feeling this way for a long time. As someone who sadly is at the mercy of systems like the NHS and social support, I absolutely despair at the fact we are getting less and less, being fobbed off and treated appallingly. I know it's a bit of a tangent but I often feel utterly powerless at the predicament we plebs are in regards doing anything about it whilst being worked to the bone and taxed for the pleasure.

I wonder what exactly can we plebs do about it? I'm fervently anti conservative but then think, will my vote and a change of government improve things I cite above or address the issues you have raised.

The mad thing is that we plebs are the vast vast majority and yet we let this tiny minority do it to us! I don't know the answer either. I doubt a Labour government will do anything truly radical and a lot of the rot has already taken hold so even if they try to run the country with integrity, plenty of business people and other leaders will continue to act with impunity.

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Superlambaanana · 06/04/2024 20:00

feellikeanalien · 06/04/2024 16:17

I was listening to The Rest is History podcast about the UK in the 70s the other day. Things were pretty grim then. The Troubles in NI, the bombings on the British mainland, strikes, three day week, inflation, power cuts. Housing conditions were grim for a lot of people, some didn't even have inside toilets.

Britain was regarded as the "sick man of Europe". Manufacturing was disappearing and the pound was in freefall.

I think we go through cycles and this is also affected by world events. Big business has always scratched politicians backs and vice versa. There have always been scandals, Jeremy Thorpe, David Mellor, Robert Maxwell and the Mirror pension fund to name but a few. There have also been good times and I think people who have lived through those always think that things will continue to get better.

I also think social media has a lot to answer for in creating discontent and the use of algorithms means that our feelings are constantly reinforced and we often don't see the other side of things. People are also less willing to listen to other opinions which may be different to theirs and tend to see things more in black and white. This has also lead to a lot more abuse and threats to politicians which may affect the decision of those who want enter politics to do good but feel that the downside is not worth it.

Every age has it challenges and although there is no doubt that things are not great in many ways in the UK I don't think that this is an unusual occurrence.

Good post. I think you're right and it is hard to maintain perspective in a moment in time. Still though, it feels like the 90s were a hell of a lot better. Yes there were scandals and a financial crash, but I really don't remember such blatant 'we are powerful and posh so can do whatever we want and get away with it'.

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Politicono · 06/04/2024 20:29

Superlambaanana · 06/04/2024 20:00

Good post. I think you're right and it is hard to maintain perspective in a moment in time. Still though, it feels like the 90s were a hell of a lot better. Yes there were scandals and a financial crash, but I really don't remember such blatant 'we are powerful and posh so can do whatever we want and get away with it'.

Don't kid yourself - you just didn't hear about it. Thinking any time or country is immune to any of these things is very naive.

NoisySnail · 06/04/2024 20:37

Really!! So other Prime Ministers routinely lied to parliament, illegally prorogued parliament and gave overpriced contracts to his mates who did not deliver?
You know that the corruption of the current Conservative Party is off the scale.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 06/04/2024 20:38

Tories = establishment
Establishment = corruption

And yet idiots voted for them again and again until they have broken things almost beyond repair.

NoisySnail · 06/04/2024 20:41

On the past if a Prime Minister lied to parliament it meant they would lose their seat when the lie was discovered. Nothing happened to Boris Johnson.

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