Alone in parenting, unwell. AIBU to expect some help from ex

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I have been unwell all week and struggling to get up just need to rest. Body is screaming to sleep. High temperature. Two young children which means resting is hard. No family help.

Ex is useless and hides behind his job abroad to do as little as possible. I told him I am really unwell and need help with the children. He basically has told me not his problem, same old story even when we were together.

AIBU to think it’s really unfair that I do literally all the raising and parenting. Ex does a few measly weeks a year, when he shows up on his schedule. And I’m still not even allowed to be ill and ask for help from their dad ever because its not his responsibility?

It's unfair but he wont change so unfortunately (harsh as it sounds) you are going to have to suck it up and get on with it. I hope you feel better soon x

I feel all I do is suck it up. Motto of my whole life. I’m completely worn down by it. Literally not sure how much more I can take.

he is the one missing out, not you.

Well he should but he is a shit parent and you already have two kids, so the only thing you can get from him is financial help.
I'm sorry you're unwell, it's so hard with little ones.

Lone parent for 14 years it's so so hard when you are ill. How old are they?

I feel so alone. Unless you’re living it I don’t think people fully understand how hard it is to be completely on your own in it.

the children are 3 and 6. It’s been 5 days and they are losing the plot being inside now.

You feeling better OP? It's so hard but it does get easier as they get older honestly.