I know it sounds awful. I feel guilty even thinking it, but I must genuinely spend hours every day looking for things for him or helping him with tasks that I'm sure he can do with a little thought. He still goes out alone, works full time and takes care of our kids alone when needed, and plenty of fully blind individuals manage a home.
I'm working from home today and he has just come in to ask me to find his slippers. He knows I'm exhausted and juggling childcare, university and work right now and that I'm up against a deadline. I told him I hadn't seen them and he replied that I "never help" him with anything and stormed off. He then came back 10 minutes later and said "everyone just watches me struggle and noone helps me".
Last night it was the bins, I was in my pajamas after studying all day while taking care of 2 kids and was in the middle of putting our kids to bed. He is perfectly capable of putting the bins out but struggles in low light. He left it until it was dark and then told me I had to do it. I said no I couldn't, I was exhausted and in the middle of putting the kids to bed. He said "you never help me" and then called me an "a-hole".
I know he is struggling with loosing independence, but would it be unreasonable for me to say I can't drop everything and help all the time?! If he takes his slippers off he can put them in the same place each time or remember where they are surely?! I'm not going around hiding them, they're not moving!
He might struggle to look but shouldn't he make some effort to adapt to his vision rather than expecting me to become his eyes at any time he needs me?
I have a feeling I'm being an A-hole aren't I.