We're both 31 and have been dating for a year and a half. I do love him but I just don't think this relationship is good for me.
Good parts of my relationship:
- He takes accountability whenever he messes up. There's always a promise to improve and then I see effort.
- Amazing chemistry physical and emotional
- Similar values and outlook in life
- I love spending time with him
Reasons I feel like it isn't working:
- He says he is committed and wants us to move in together, but just renewed his lease at his current place for another year as he was offered a good rate.
- He lies about stupid things like having cooked when he actually ordered food or being on ever so slightly less salary than he initially told me. I don't think he's cheating but I feel like he's capable of deceit and I can't trust him.
- He has debt and is trying to sort it out. It means that we don't do much over the weekends.
- We see each other half of the week but he wants even less of that. He says he's stressed and needs his alone time.
- His family is wild. Very toxic and he's aware. He does nothing to protect himself or me when we do interact (not often) because they help him out financially. Although he'd still lack boundaries I reckon if they didn't.
I know that I don't need to justify if I want to break up, but my friends and family think I'm being unreasonable. They think everyone will have flaws and overall his positives outweigh the negatives. I have a history of anxiety and depression, so I wanted to check if I'm sort of self sabotaging or whether the things I mention above would be a deal breaker for others also.