My ex only has our son every other weekend (sons bedtime on a Friday to midday on a Sunday, so not a full weeekend). He is self employed and has a month off at Christmas and weeks off here and there yet never asks to have our son during these times. He even messaged me a few days ago asking ‘how was son at school today’ and I had to tell him that it’s school holiday. Baring in mind, he had access to this information - I’m not his secretary.
It just baffles me that especially as he’s self employed, his work is flexible so he should take time off during the holidays to spend time with our child and not be the parent that doesn’t even know it is the holidays.
I guess I’m just ranting that a parent like this has kids that love them and they do the bare minimum. I’m in a position where I cannot work currently due to my chronic health, but If I was working then I’d have to pay for childcare or I’d have to schedule the time off work whilst ex wouldn’t do either.