Waiting to be asked in a date ..

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Chatting on line to a man for the last four days. Very basic stuff. Equal exchanging but he hasn't asked me on a date yet. I suggested a day to meet but he has a football game that day . That was today.
How long should I expect before he asks me or not, as the case may be.
At what stage do I throw him back in if not forthcoming? I won't be suggesting another.

Anyone?
I'm new to dating , in my late 40's, thanks

Sounds like he’s not that interested. I’d probably stop bothering with him.

(I’m sixty and never dated.)

Why does he need to ask you?why don't you ask?

Thanks. I suggested but he has football that day.

You need to be honest and clear with him about your expectations for the relationship. Say something like:

I've been really enjoying our conversations but meeting in person is really important to me before we take things any further. Are you able to set something up in the next two weeks?

Don't take it personally if he doesn't set something up, some people are insecure and are only looking for online relationships.

I know your hobby is telling women off. But at last read the OP. She suggested today. He declined. FFS.

Chuck him back OP.

Suggest another date, if he declines, then disengage and move on. No need to waste your time by waiting for him to offer.

I found some people chat online but don't commit to a date. This to me was a huge red flag and I'd just start making it clear I don't want to waste time.

Do you think he wants to meet up or is he just chatting?

It doesn't sound like he's that interested in meeting up - he's possibly in a relationship, so I'd probably let it fizzle out xxx

I think he is probably either v laid back or disinterested or looking for a chat buddy. Regardless he hasn't asked me out despite saying a date would be lovely. He plays football at a high end so that doesn't bother me... but that he hasn't suggested an alternative date , does .
still, we text throughout the day , just random stuff.
Not sure really...

Don't fall into the chat buddy trap! It'll stop you looking for somebody else. Just say It'll be good to meet in person for a coffee let me know when you're free. That way it's just a coffee meet not you asking him on a date if that's what you want to avoid.

How did your game go?
Would you like to go for a coffee this weekend or when would suit you?

Well he text this morning so I did as suggested by some and wished him
A good weekend and if he wanted to do coffee or lunch over next week or so ,to let me know. We're quite a distance apart so let's see!