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sunights · 2024-04-04T21:07:18+00:00

When I shop at small high street supermarkets I look out for and buy items that are reduced due to their use by date where I can use them in my meal planning. I think it is ethical to avoid food waste and know these items get thrown away if they are not sold. I also don't have any problem with trying not to spend more than I need to, as although I live in a house with a paid off mortgage and my DP has an annual passive income of around £250k, my own passive annual income is less then 10% of this and my DP expects me to split most costs equally with him. We are in a town where CoL is very high and there is a large street homeless community in the local area. AIBU?

Sparklesocks · 05/04/2024 14:54

What on earth? This post just gets stranger and stranger.

Misthios · 05/04/2024 14:57

We are not hard up. My freezer is filled with yellow label bargains - I haven;t bought full price meat or fish in months. Why would I voluntarily give the supermarkets more money than I have to?

Some people have very peculiar ideas about second hand or reduced to clear. This weird idea that by not buying that pack of reduced mince, you're leaving it for "a poor person". Given that the supermarkets don't ask to see your bank balance when shopping, all you're doing is doing yourself out of money. Batshit.

determinedtomakethiswork · 05/04/2024 14:59

In my opinion if you have the money you should leave the yellow label items for other people who don't have the money. The only difference would be if you went into the shop five minutes before closing time and then I think it's fine to take what you want.

Are you married to this land? Are you sure you own half of the house? You say you live rent-free which doesn't sound as though you are a homeowner.

Misthios · 05/04/2024 15:21

So, in short, yes, imo, you are BU. If you don't buy them, someone else in true hardship will.

How do you think that works, @OldTinHat ? Asking for proof that someone's on UC before allowing them to put a reduced item in the trolley? The whole point of shops is that anyone who has the money can buy whatever they have on offer. Asda/Tesco/Waitrose is not a charitable enterprise set up to distribute food to "the poor".

Too Good to Go is a brilliant concept and we have used it more than once. But you would struggle to feed yourself or your family entirely off the app. The last M&S/BP filling station bag we had was entirely cake. Kids chuffed to bits, would have been gutted if I was relying on it for a proper meal.

x2boys · 05/04/2024 15:34

determinedtomakethiswork · 05/04/2024 14:59

In my opinion if you have the money you should leave the yellow label items for other people who don't have the money. The only difference would be if you went into the shop five minutes before closing time and then I think it's fine to take what you want.

Are you married to this land? Are you sure you own half of the house? You say you live rent-free which doesn't sound as though you are a homeowner.

You don't make the rules up.anybody can buy reduced food
There are many reasons why less we'll off people might not want or need the reduced items.

BIossomtoes · 05/04/2024 15:39

GrazingSheep · 04/04/2024 22:58

He has income of £20,000 per month.
You have less than £2000 per month.
He expects you to split outgoings equally.
Can you not see that you are being screwed?

This. I can’t imagine it. My bloke’s income is more than mine - nowhere near ten times - and we’re a long way off a 50/50 split.

mydogisthebest · 05/04/2024 16:15

OldTinHat · 05/04/2024 10:00

In my friendship group, there's a multi millionaire who is known for going to supermarkets and buying everything with a yellow sticker. The rest of us are struggling and one friend saw him with a load of veggie reduced meals in his trolley. She confronted him, saying he wasn't a veggie and he can afford to buy anything. He just laughed at her and said he'd got there first, so tough luck.

And no, he's not a close friend of mine!

So, in short, yes, imo, you are BU. If you don't buy them, someone else in true hardship will. If it's still on the shelves at close of business, it will be distributed to local charities or via Too Goo To Go.

How on earth are posters so certain someone in true hardship is going to be in the shop at the right time and want the food items that are reduced? It's such a ridiculous thing to say.

Items that are reduced because they are at the sell by date are not going to be given to a food bank are they? Also not sure that all shops are in the too good to go scheme.

Anyone can get the too good to go app on their phone so even then the food is not going to only people in true hardship is it?

x2boys · 05/04/2024 16:26

OldTinHat · 05/04/2024 10:00

In my friendship group, there's a multi millionaire who is known for going to supermarkets and buying everything with a yellow sticker. The rest of us are struggling and one friend saw him with a load of veggie reduced meals in his trolley. She confronted him, saying he wasn't a veggie and he can afford to buy anything. He just laughed at her and said he'd got there first, so tough luck.

And no, he's not a close friend of mine!

So, in short, yes, imo, you are BU. If you don't buy them, someone else in true hardship will. If it's still on the shelves at close of business, it will be distributed to local charities or via Too Goo To Go.

He's right ,why shouldn't he buy food with yellow stickers .

x2boys · 05/04/2024 16:34

BobnLen · 05/04/2024 08:46

Waitrose was the place to go, it was also posted on Hotukdeals, loads of all different mini eggs and bunnies, all half price, also large Lindt bunnies and some large Lindor eggs. The large Lindor eggs were still a bit pricey though per 100g. I think some stores had other larger Easter eggs

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I don't know where the poster you were replying to lives ,but there are no waitroses' near, we have a plethora of other supermarkets but the nearest waitrose is about 30 miles away.

BobnLen · 05/04/2024 16:35

Too good to go is the same as the yellow stickers, it's to stop food waste, it's not a means tested service for the poor. How ridiculous that people don't buy it if it's what they want.

GreyTonkinese · 05/04/2024 19:01

You don't own a share of the house. You have a small income. He has a very large income which is 10 times yours but he expects you to pay half the expenses. You're not married. He could break up and throw you out next week. I don't see you as being financially secure. I'd keep it up with the yellow labels and try to get some property and savings of my own.

DonnaBanana · 05/04/2024 19:29

I would avoid it unless you really think the items will go to waste. It’s a bit like how you can take toilet paper or towels from a hotel but you really shouldn’t as there are limited amounts and it ruins it for other people.

x2boys · 05/04/2024 20:11

DonnaBanana · 05/04/2024 19:29

I would avoid it unless you really think the items will go to waste. It’s a bit like how you can take toilet paper or towels from a hotel but you really shouldn’t as there are limited amounts and it ruins it for other people.

Well its not because you are paying for the items in a,supermarket you would be stealing towels from a hotel so not remotely the same .

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sunights · 05/04/2024 22:36

@Willmafrockfit yes - I felt bad and have apologised to her again today.

She replied to me in a way that suggests she is trying to fix me / that I am broken for being stressed about her going on about shopping for bargains.

I think her and my world's are just too different and responses to this post have helped me to see that.

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LanaL · 08/04/2024 08:49

Nothing wrong with it at all but I think the issue of this post is that you feel you have to buy reduced things because your husband earns 250k and expects you to contribute equally when you earn 25k !! That’s absurd !

On an income like that you shouldn’t need to be buying reduced things ( I don’t know your finances and I’m not saying that you shouldn’t but surely the reason you need to is because you are buying the shopping and are skint because of having to contribute equally ! ) .

Marriage is a team effort . I earn less than my husband and we have high outgoings - sometimes we can’t afford for me to only contribute an amount that is an equal share based on the difference between our wages ( we are both paid weekly , he earns about £300 weekly more than me ) due to bill dates etc but he does not expect me to just pay half , always . I pay what I can and he picks up where I can’t. If I need something I never have to worry that “I” don’t have it …. If I’ve paid bills and I’m short , he will do his best to give me what I need - or just leave his card - he sees it as we are married , we’re joint . One bank account may have more in it but if the other needs it and it’s there then we can have it . If I am skint , I just tell him … we usually know in advance as I’m a supply teacher so for eg I have no wages next week as it’s been half term . Nothing . He knows this and knows what needs to be paid so just makes sure he accounts for it .

This reminds me of my ex . We have a child and we used to get tax credits . He expected me to go half on everything , even though he was working full time and I was struggling to work part time around a newborn baby ( I would spend the whole day caring for our baby - I went back to work when he was still very young ) and I would be exhausted and he would come home from work and then I would have to leave for work as I worked nights . I had another child too and they would go to their dads when I worked , so he wasn’t looking after 2 like I was , and it got to the point that baby would sleep not long after I left and he would maybe have a dream feed , then I would get home at midnight and he would wake just after I got into bed then it would be me doing all the night feeds then back up early for my other child to be dropped home as his dad had to go to work and then just repeat it all again . I had to work because he was so stingy . He would “ lend “me money for shopping through the month that I would have to pay back with my paltry wages and tax credits . He then kept doing overtime - despite me saying that this would affect the tax credits ( which it did , leaving me short ) but I would have no benefit from his overtime as he would still expect me to contribute equally . It really made me think less of him and we weren’t together long . It honestly got to a point that we would go for food , or for a bit of shopping and say the total was £40 he would say “ I’ll send you £20 “ or we would be out and he may have ordered a takeaway that week and paid - so he would drive to McDonald’s ( not asking me ) then say “ I’ll let you get this as I got the Chinese the other night “ and if I said I didn’t have it he would say “ ok just add it on to what you owe me for shopping when you get paid “

Sorry that was a rant and a half but it’s absurd! No one should live like this .

Emmz1510 · 08/04/2024 09:16

Yanbu at all to buy yellow label items.
However I hope there isn’t some kind of financial abuse going on here.

justasking111 · 08/04/2024 10:03

The couple aren't married though so his income doesn't come into it legally. They go 50/50 on everything.

ALJT · 08/04/2024 12:51

No you are not BU, everyone can feel the pinch and also not just for that reason, but ethically to save food waste. You keep doing you

Ablar · 08/04/2024 17:35

Between you, you have a passive income of £13,000 a month! £13 grand! While most people in the uk are on about £1200 a month! Yes you're being unreasonable but so is your husband

justasking111 · 08/04/2024 18:54

Ablar · 08/04/2024 17:35

Between you, you have a passive income of £13,000 a month! £13 grand! While most people in the uk are on about £1200 a month! Yes you're being unreasonable but so is your husband

They're not married for the Nth time!!

They split all bills 50/50

PloddingAlong21 · 11/04/2024 12:21

You’re focusing on the wrong things - buy yellow label if you like. However your partner is treating you poorly.