Hurtful

[londonlass18]

Sadly my DF lost his partner last year. I have visited him almost every day since taking him shopping lunch etc. He also has a cleaner a couple of times a week. She makes him some lunch changes the bed occasionally takes him for a coffee. I was visiting him today and we had a few words nothing awful but he was sharp with me and I said 'do you not want me to visit you every day' to which he answered 'if you don't visit me every day I will leave my house to the cleaner as I am very fond of her' I am so upset that as his daughter he puts me second place to his cleaner, which I pay for. AIBU

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Has he always been abusive like that? Sounds horrible.

I think it was unkind. He's being very well looked after by you and the cleaner and should really start appreciating it!

That's really unkind.
My gran used to say similar spiteful things to my lovely mum (her daughter). My mum used to tell her that was absolutely fine and it was her money to do with as she wished. She never argued back or looked bothered which annoyed my gran immensely. Don't rise to it.
Gran was miserable and depressed after losing her husband and it made her mean sadly. She lashed out at mum because she was the closest to her and the person who would still keep turning up regardless. And she did, until the very end. She did actually end up leaving mum an inheritance, it was all just angry venom.