To be majorly fucked off!!

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

I am fuming. Literally fuming!

One UK holiday a year (I posted recently about costs)

Off with our BFs. All OK, all good.

BFs mum is local, so of course know her well. Too well. Alcoholic. Nasty, horrible alcoholic.She asked my BF whether she could come in holiday us and BF has said yes!!!

They've fucking booked. Same park. Same dates.

I am fuming. We can't cancel, paid in full. Lose everything and can't afford to go elsewhere. Kids are so looking forward to it.

I can't even put in to words how angry I am. When drunk mum and BF get together they are absolutely horrific.

Arggghhh.

Can you definitely not cancel?

After this, I would never go on holiday with my best friend ever again if I were you.

And I'd be giving her and her mum a wide berth this year on holiday too.

Just call and ask them to change the dates.

This is a good suggestion.

I'd definitely try to change the dates of your booking. You are right to be furious. Have you told your friend how you feel?

She didn't even ask if it was OK... surely you ask?

She said she didn't know what to say....ermm....say fucking no.

"Oh but she was lovely today" yes, because she didn't have her 8am bottle of Pinot.

BF KNOWS what she's like.

I'm confused sorry. BF is boyfriend, yes? or Best Friend?

I'd look into every option to change the booking... dates, accommodation type, anything. As a last resort I just wouldnt go if it was shared accommodation. Of its bit, I'd go but refuse to be in the same room as the mum. It'll be awkward but you and kids deserve a nice holiday. Not a week of mediating unstable people.

You are not being unreasonable adding people to established plans without discussion never goes well

Yanbu. However bf is not protecting you and dc (are they his?) and enabling her behaviour, i doubt this is the first time. How will she get herself there?

Sorry BF is best friend apologies. Should have been clearer.

@LIZS driving herself apparently. She's coming with her equally alcoholic friend 😔

Lose the boyfriend. If he changes when he's around his mum then what's to say he won't start being awful without her

Change the dates. I would give my friend an ultimatum. Your mother gatecrashes then I am out. Children of alcoholics are used to the bad behaviour, had a whole life time of it and won’t see this the same way that you do.