To be feel at odds with revelation that my married friend is having an affair with my ex?

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Just that really, found out very recently from a third-party that my friend is having an affair with my ex. I don’t have any lingering feelings for him just fond memories of a first love. However, this does not sit comfortably due to the deceit to his wife & also feel she’s crossed a boundary getting with a friends ex, she hadn’t confided this in me at all which were the affair not with my ex I know she would have. My advice would have been to not get involved. If his wife finds out she will be devastated. Friend is confident he’s leaving his wife, although he hasn’t as yet.

Yes. That's a line you don't cross.
She sounds revolting

It's none of your business he can do what he likes, you say you don't care but you do so I would work on that

Do you like her husband? I'm not "pro cheating" but unless her husband is your friend too or you feel you owe him more loyalty than you owe your friend, I'd just stay out of it.
Her affair with your X weird though. Awkward.

So you're making a situation which is nothing to do with you, into being all about you. I see.

Shameless behaviour no respect to the wife no respect to her long-standing friend and clearly no respect to herself. Can never understand how someone can get where a friend or relatives ex to me it's just disgusting behaviour. It's the behaviour you'd expect to see on an episode of eastenders.

Not yr circus not yr monkeys.

So because you dated someone 23 years ago you get to control who can or can't go out with them? If it was reversed and you fell for a friend of this ex's, would you think your ex should get a say in the matter? I doubt it.