Does anyone else ever get like this?

[Thatsonggetsinyourhead]

I feel sort of stressed (don’t know what about) then there’s seem so much that needs to be done that I don’t want to/don’t do it. I’m not depressed, but it’s even having a shower and washing my hair, I need to do it, but just don’t want to get wet/can’t be bothered with it all.
Hard to explain, just a funk I get into
Does anyone else?

Yes I get this very often OP. It's usually the small things that all add up, like death by a million papercuts.
Then I have to force myself to do it and it goes away - today it was shower and dry hair properly and take the bins round the front and empty the overstuffed kitchen bin. All small tasks but combined I couldn't be bothered.
All done now and I've snapped out of it a bit but It is a wrench.

Yes

With me It either means - you just need to buck up and get on with things

Or

You need a proper break

If there is nothing much to feel stressed and bothered about I'd suggest the former - it can be like that when there isn't enough going on in life - look to getting something good / fun in the diary if possible

It’s a horrible feeling, almost like tiredness/cba, it’s pretty bad to not want to shower or wash my hair though 😩

Me. Alot of the time I don't even want to make dinner :(

Yes 😞 more often than not at the moment and can’t put my finger on why 😞

I suffer from depression and this is what happens when I'm going through an episode

It’s like wading through treacle, can’t work out of its tiredness or what
Sorry to hear others feel the same, at the same time it’s quite reassuring

Motivation list is what helps me
Write down what you want to achieve eg
Bins
Tidy the clean washing pile up
Clean draining board
Defrost fridge
Book MOT

Tick them off as you finish.

@whatsbestforme I have a daily list I do on my phone, had lots to do bills/appointment wise at the start of the week and felt overwhelmed but got it done, now just feel like I cba but am irritated/agitated at the same time

a lot of this was perimenopause symptoms for me. how old are you?

@Shiningout I did wonder about this, I don’t feel down as such, just like everything is such an effort. Need to take dc out and quite willing to not bothering with shower and hair but hope I don’t run into anyone, at the same time, feel quite gross about that

@NotFastButFurious I am the target age-46, have had periods tailing off a bit for the last 3/4 years, but not many other symptoms as of yet

@NotFastButFurious How did you help with this?

Yes. Not stressed at the moment but some days everything feels like an effort. Once I’ve forced myself into the shower for a hair wash things seem a lot better. I’m on antidepressants which are great so I don’t really know what it is. Just general can’t be arsed-ness x

I’m sure this is perimenopause, the general CBA DNGAF feeling. I very much relate to the ‘don’t even want to cook dinner’ thing.

The cooking of the dinner thing sometimes feels like such a chore. I think it’s the daily repetition

Yeah, it’s that overwhelming/brain foggy fuzzy feeling.
I find I just need to decide 1 thing and just do it. So eg. Shower/get ready. Then decide the next thing. And then the next. I think when previously we have been really ‘on it’ and super organised it can feel so overwhelming when my brain just can’t process multiple tasks at once. I get nothing done when I’m like that, but when I break everything down into little micro tasks I get more done. It’s a new way of thinking for my perimenopausal mind.

I was saying this to dh that it’s funny you know you’re overtired/ coming down with something/off when you actively think about things like washing your hair or having a shower considering how little time they take up. Hope whatever it is eases soon op x

all. the. time

With literally everything. Everything is a constant battle, there is so much to do, with such little time, and zero energy. I have wondered if its a bit of depression?

HRT! I suspect it's also stopped me being fired and killing someone in the last 12 months ;)

Ok you already do a list.
Do you feel bored,school holidays can be tricky to please everyone and to cater for each persons mood and that may lead to frustration and anxiety.

Bake some very easy cakes with DC?
Trip to a pet shop/fish aquarium shop!

Do 1 horrid thing followed by 1 nice thing. Repeat tomorrow.

Try to get an early night, drink enough water and eat well. Also stay off your phone/avoid endleds scrolling (always makes me feel crap.)

Yes me. And also showering is top of the list. I now shower every other day and use dry shampoo (I do wash) but I feel miserable about myself. Today and tomorrow I'm on leave, wanted a couple of treat days, but haven't yet emptied the dishwasher from last night or put on a load of washing. Interesting you all saying perimemopause. At 47 that's probably me. I thought I was just being crap.

Writing all that - I'm now going to empty the dishwasher...

I had this really bad during the start of peri. It’s lifted somewhat now but I’ll tell you what really DIDN’T help - “relaxing” online.

For me, it was low level depression, exhaustion, boredom and overwhelm. Being expected to do all the usual mum tasks without thanks. It made me resent even doing routine things for myself.

So I sat and scrolled and pseudo-relaxed, avoiding it all. Only it just made everything worse. The only remedy I found was getting off my phone and properly relaxing with naps or bath when I was tired, taking up pen and paper to organise the day when I was overwhelmed and getting outside for fresh air and exercise when I felt “meh”.

Not a magic bullet, but I actually started to feel somewhat re-set, rather than caught in the whirlpool of doom.

Still doesn’t make me feel any more enthusiastic about having to decide on dinner every bloody day, but hey!