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AIBU

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Shar2206 · 04/04/2024 10:44

Hi Everyone,

Last year I had agreed to rent a room to one of my friends boyfriends for a period of time whilst I was away from my home, we agreed the timeframe, amount and when he would pay me every month. We set up a really fair deal (about half of what he would normally expect to pay in the area for a similar place) as I really just needed to cover my costs whilst I was away and as he is my friends BF I didn’t want to take the mick!

throughout the whole time he has been there he has consistently been late paying me, sometimes by 3/4weeks, which causes big issues for me as I amended all my bills to come out at a certain time of the month based on what we agreed and leaves me short and needing to dip into my overdraft. I wouldn’t mind so much if this was at least communicated but he doesn’t let me know that it will be later and I feel to awkward to ask, we are all adults and know how this works!

He has recently gone away on holiday for a month and I don’t think he is going to pay, again we had no communication about this and I think he just assumes as he wasn’t there he doesn’t need to pay. Whilst on holiday (towards the end of it)he had told me that he will be moving out when he comes back, which is fine and honestly a bit of a relief for me, however he has been back for a week (staying elsewhere) and has made no effort to move anything out, so I am unable to do anything with the room.

AIBU to approach him about the rent issue ( if he intends to pay anything to cover the time whilst he was on holiday) and ask him to move his stuff out asap? I feel like he is taking the mick as I am his GF’s friend and wouldn’t do this with anyone else?

OP posts:
brocollilover · 04/04/2024 10:45

AIBU to approach him about the rent issue ( if he intends to pay anything to cover the time whilst he was on holiday) and ask him to move his stuff out asap?

are you really asking this?

how long has he been there?

brocollilover · 04/04/2024 10:45

are you renting? were you allowed to sub let?

idontlikealdi · 04/04/2024 10:47

YABU because you haven't brought it up before now!

CagneyAndLazy · 04/04/2024 10:48

YABU to title your thread "AIBU".

shepherdsangeldelight · 04/04/2024 10:48

YABU not to give your post a proper title.

YABU not to have raised the late rent the first time (or at least the second time) it happened.

Ask him for back rent and when he is moving out. You might not get the money, but at least you will get your place back.

Itsaloadofbollocksbut · 04/04/2024 10:49

Misposted - have reread the thread now.

brocollilover · 04/04/2024 10:49

i suspect you’ve sublet this op
and you’re not allowed to
so he has you over a barrel if he wished to walk out without paying a penny

canyouletthedogoutplease · 04/04/2024 10:52

Jack,

You've given a moving out date of xxxx, which had now passed. The room needs to be fully vacated by xx date, and the arrears of £xx in my account by the same date.

Many thanks

Send this in writing. On the date, if he hasn't removed his stuff you can pack it up and pop in out the front of the house. It's unlikely you'll get the money, but you could see that as it costing you that amount to remove a cheeky fucker from your life permanently.

Stop being a pushover.

Itsaloadofbollocksbut · 04/04/2024 10:55

On OP’s last thread she was planning to move in with her partner.

she never came back to the thread to answer questions - suspect the same here.

I also suspect she is subletting a council flat that she shouldn’t still have. (Just a hunch.)

brocollilover · 04/04/2024 10:58

Itsaloadofbollocksbut · 04/04/2024 10:55

On OP’s last thread she was planning to move in with her partner.

she never came back to the thread to answer questions - suspect the same here.

I also suspect she is subletting a council flat that she shouldn’t still have. (Just a hunch.)

yep i clocked that

she’s about to lose out it would seem

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