Is this just me being me!!

[Sherrytriffle12345]

Does anyone else feel like me. And aibu . I am not sure its hormonal as I am in my early 40s, I have 3 kids, I work and have a husband, but sometimes I feel like I am not good enough, I never get asked to go out with groups of "friends" my kids never get invited either, but if I ask friends kids to come over for tea or a sleep over they will send them, but people never do the same in return, I am always the one who texts first to see how my friends are, I am always there for people and would do anything for anyone. I try and fit in with the school mom's or the footy mom's but always feel that I am not good enough, I don't get invited to nights out or even just out for lunch with these people, I do feel lonely and sad and it is really starting to make me question of how I am as a person, and should i change who I am to fit?? Does this make sense is it hormonal or aibù?

You sound like my OH and I am oe of your "friends"!

Dot be too hard people are busy as are you.

So are a genuine person but sadly too many people have too many so-called friends. TBH. I'd rather be in your shoes than friends.

don't be too hard on yourself as you sound like a great mum, wife etc

I usually feel like this to the point that this year I didn’t even bother organising a birthday meal with friends. I was actually really surprised that two did get in touch and suggest meeting up. I’ve felt low on their priorities for a while. Dh thinks it’s because I appear to have my shit together so they assume I’m fine.

I am always the one who texts first to see how my friends are, I am always there for people and would do anything for anyone.

Kindly, I think you need to manage your expectations of others.
Do these things only if you want to, if doing them makes you feel good.

But if you're waiting for the same back from other people, to let you know your worth, you're looking at it all wrong.

Try to make new friends with a new hobby if the ones you have are not giving what you need. Or, speak to someone you already do know, to let them know your feelings. You may at least get an explanation for why they dont contact as much.

But either way, you need to fill up your time with things you enjoy, and if you dont have them yet, keep looking.

Dont stand around waiting for people to be like you.