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Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?

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catPA · 03/04/2024 20:31

I bought some items from an online artist based in Canada. The first purchase was for just under £200 and I paid about £45 in customs tax for that. Fine.

After my first purchase (but while it was still in transit), I looked at her Instagram and the seller had done various posts about how her business is struggling to survive, 'artist poverty is real', '30% off with code 'help me pay my electric bill' etc. I thought all this seemed a bit 'unusual,' (also possibly a bit 'tone deaf' as she lives in a huge, beautiful house by the sea and does her art full time so she can be a SAHM - not a choice many women could make)! But I thought fair enough, she's being honest; I genuinely love her art and good for her living her dream. I wanted to support her business if I could.

So I bought another item for £280 which had previously been listed at about £450 (I think). She was doing a sale across all her work.

I couldn't have afforded it at £450 and also the higher customs tax would have been a bit much for me, on balance.

Anyway, both packages didn't arrive for ages and it turned out they were being held at the post office, pending customs charges. The first package, as I said, required a £45 customs tax payment. However, the second package, required a customs tax payment of £95! I asked how that could be possible, when I had paid £280 for the item. Then I saw that the unexpectedly high customs tax was because the seller had stated the value of goods as £450 (or the equivalent in Canadian dollars).

I messaged the seller and told her that surely it's standard practice to state the actual transaction price on a package for customs purposes.

Thst was it. She was straight into "What do you expect me to do?" etc. Then went into the woe-is-me 'artist poverty is real' and how could I be devaluing her art in this way. She got very personalised very quickly. She said she will never devalue her work again because I had done that for her! She said I was essentially asking her to defraud customs. She basically said she wished she had never sold me anything because I don't value her art!

Ffs I had spent over £600 on it (with the tax). I was talking about labelling for customs tax - I believe it should be the transaction amount stated, not some previous price. How is that in my control?

In summary, she became very unprofessional with me and then blocked me.

I had left her a really positive comment on Instagram as well - before all this!

Apologies for the length.

WIBU?

Also, should I leave her a review stating my experience?

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Stichintime · 03/04/2024 20:34

She devalued her art by putting it on sale. Yes she sounds a total pain, and pretentious with it! I wouldn't bother giving her a review, she will probably respond badly, with 'woe is me' comments.

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 03/04/2024 20:34

YANBU Tax is due on the price paid.

Not the price that the seller wanted originally but didn't get.

RandomButtons · 03/04/2024 20:35

She’s a cheeky monkey.

Gagagardener · 03/04/2024 20:35

Yes, leave a review that alerts others.

catPA · 03/04/2024 20:36

Thank you. I was so taken aback

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MathiasBroucek · 03/04/2024 20:37

She's a nut

Saintmariesleuth · 03/04/2024 20:37

I can't answer on the legalities of customs and pricing, but her response to your question was completely unreasonable- although if you worded it exactly as in your OP, I can see it may have come across somewhat abrupt and rude

Have you had to pay the fee to release the artwork from customs?

catPA · 03/04/2024 20:39

Yes I paid the £45 and the £95.

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OriginalUsername2 · 03/04/2024 20:39

This happens in the online seller world sometimes, since there’s no gatekeeping. Hugely unprofessional. If you wrote a negative review she would probably make “how dare they” content for a month.

catPA · 03/04/2024 20:42

Yes, in here website, it's very much a 'love in' and everyone telling her how 'the struggle is real' and this kind of thing.

Then she posts photos of her home that is like something from a magazine!

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Rocketpants50 · 03/04/2024 20:42

Very short sighted of her as you would think she would see you as a valued customer having brought 2 items and left a good review.

I think you need to alert others if they are buying overseas- it would only be fair to her that others don't put her in the same position that her work is not valued - as she puts it! It must have been so devastating for her, so be kind and write that review!

BreakfastAtMimis · 03/04/2024 20:45

YANBU. She should have put the actual price it sold for.
But the opposite happened to me. I bought a print from the US for about $50, was expecting a customs fee but it was delivered straight to me. The seller had written the value as $15. I was baffled but very grateful!

Spudthespanner · 03/04/2024 20:48

Ew. I'd honestly have to bin her art. Take a photo of you setting light to it, send her the photo, and just take the financial hit.

I couldn't have it hanging in my home after all that nonsense.

catPA · 03/04/2024 20:51

I will try to copy paste one of her responses

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Saintmariesleuth · 03/04/2024 20:51

You'd be within your rights to leave a review- is there somewhere (e.g Google or amazon etc) rather than her direct business page that you could leave it? I can see that it may just be more of a hassle than it's worth though.
I'm sure I don't need to comment that this would be my last purchase from her!

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 03/04/2024 20:57

If you have a receipt showing that you paid the lesser amount you should be able to claim a refund from Customs.

thatsnotacactus · 03/04/2024 20:57

I would leave an honest review so that other overseas buyers know what to expect, and not buy from her again (due to her arrogant response).

newtlover · 03/04/2024 20:58

I think you could leave a very neutral but accurate review advising other buyers to beware of the issue you experienced
so what if she then posts a load of self pitying stuff, that's her look out

catPA · 03/04/2024 21:00

Here goes. I contacted her to say I think there has been an error with thd postsgr label because the value of goods stated was much higher than I had actually purchased. This what came next -

Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?
Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?
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catPA · 03/04/2024 21:01

Sorry for my typos above

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Starfish1021 · 03/04/2024 21:02

I think you absolutely need to leave a review. Ridiculous and completely over the top.

catPA · 03/04/2024 21:03

I then replied as follows and this was the response. All because of a postage query!

Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?
Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?
Sanity check please - was I 'devaluing her art' or is this seller a headcase?
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QuillBill · 03/04/2024 21:04

However much she feels it's worth is completely irrelevant in a customs situation. She's mad!

ToxicChristmas · 03/04/2024 21:06

She's an idiot.
She "devalued" her own work. She's blocked a repeat customer. No wonder she's "struggling".
Leave an accurate review.

OneCornetto · 03/04/2024 21:06

She's got some nerve saying you are devaluing her art when it's you that has bought it and shipped it across the world!

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