Cheating but he's dead?

[oprahwindsock]

My husband died 4 years ago, we were married a long time but we split up for some time during our marriage but got back together and stayed together till he died. I later found out he'd been having a 7 year affair while we were together.

Recently flowers were left at his grave, they weren't from my son, all other family live a long way from here.

Today on what would have been his birthday, I took some flowers to the churchyard and there was a small wooden heart left there.

So who is leaving the flowers/heart? It makes me think he was being unfaithful again and I feel sick to my stomach that the years I've been shedding tears over his loss were wasted tears.

Why do you want to know though? You’re never going to hear his side. There’s nothing going to give you any comfort. Grief is hard enough without adding g complications into it. Said from a fellow widow if 6 yrs.

Why? What would that solve.

If she had a 7 year affair, she's probably grieving too, whatever you think of her.

I think you should just forget about it and move on.

You're all so wise, but I'm so upset by this.

For now I'm doing nothing.