Would moving be worth it?

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Currently live in a 2 bed ground floor flat with garden in Altrincham.
It is 64 square meters.

Been offered a home in Sussex. 3 bed House, large garden, but it's only 75 meters.

My dh is very happy to be moving within weekly commutable range of family, friends and work in London (where we previously lived for 15 years)

I have a 6 year old girl and, 3 year old and 6 month old boys.

I love where I live but accept it can't be forever, dd is settled in school, my mum is nearby and love my neighbours. I feel lucky to be given this council flat in such a nice area.

DH is really wanting to move but I don't know if I will get the space I think I'm going to get.
Im viewing the house next week but i'm really unsure while dh is so giddy! He thinks I'm being silly and not appreciating the chance we have as we may not be offered a 3 bed by our current council for a very long time.

Am I being completely unreasonable to consider staying?

Yabu. You could always exchange later down the line, and be in a better position to do so from a 3 bed house.

So you and him have 4 kids between you? If so then yes YABU, a 2 bed flat is not suitable for you anymore.

How would you feel moving away from your mum? Would she be able to visit often if you move?

Sorry I worded it wrong.

We have 3 children.

I thought about the exchange option but would people want to move to a 3 bed even if the third bed is a box room?

She isn't happy as she said she's "got me back" in the north but I would visit and so would she. Even when I lived in London she visited nearly every 2 months and tries her best

Yes. They'll want to move for work/to be near family and may need 2.5 bedrooms due to older children or a baby. You need the space, you'd be mad to give up the chance.

You live in Altrincham but your OH works in London?

His company is there and when we moved two years ago he was allowed to work from home. He travels every two weeks though for a day in office and stays at MiL.

Even with three kids not four, it's still mad to stay in a two-bed flat over a three-bed house and the kids are all young enough to move now. I'm with your DH. You might never get the space you want, but this is a good deal and they don't come along that often and there's always some compromises.

Isn't there a three bed nearer?

That's tiny for a 3 bed house

Most of Sussex is very nice too and it makes more sense for your DH's work. If you were planning to privately rent or buy a bigger place in Altrincham and for you both to be working locally there longer-term, then staying would make sense. But really the only draw to being there is your mum who's shown she'll still travel to see you plenty. The Sussex plan makes much more sense overall.

Nope. My husband wants to be in the south and when this came along he has forgot any idea of trying to get a home in this area.

You're very focused on the size of the house. That does matter because you're getting a bigger house instead of a flat, and the location is better for DH. Some things you really need to consider though:

1. Neighbours - does the new area have problem ones? Door knock and ask around, visit in the evening as well as the daytime.
2. Schools - are there spaces in good nearby schools?
3. Travel - all of Sussex is a huge area; what's the ease of trasport to and from Altrincham and also from London?
4. Childcare - if your mum usual does this, what's the extra cost?
5. Your work - are there suitable companies for you to apply for? You might be on maternity leave and have money to repay if you can't return (appreciate you may not be working at the moment, so this may not be relevant)
6. Activities - again, everything is not equal. Most of Sussex you'll be near some town centres, but some ritual parts could feel isolated if you're coming from the outskirts of a city, so check the area and think how you'll actually live there.

As a time to move in the kids lives, I think it's great, you'll be able to meet other families through the kids and settle well, while your little girl is still young enough to settle quickly.

Of course they would, a third box room is still a third bedroom.