10 or so 13/14yr olds drunk and p!ssing up cars, so i called police

[justhavingamoan]

I said obviously it wasnt anywhere near emergency but I think a drive by would help them dsperese. its a v quiet little village and the past few weekends there has been a gang of them hanging around, shouting and being prats generally.

I am hoping police just drive past and they disperse, but if they took one or two home to parents drunk that would be even better as perhaps the parents dont know and would deal with it.

what would you have done?

Do you know, I'm now old enough to get fed up of the 'Well there is nothing for them to do' excuse that gets trotted out.

There was nothing to do when I was a teenager, and while we did mess about we never did anything so antisocial as get openly drunk and piss on peoples cars. Yes, people did drink alcohol, but we knew damn fine that it this was obvious our parents would make us wish we'd never been born.

I'm sorry that they are bored, but it doesn't give them the right to act like arseholes, it really doesn't

I wasn't saying that your DS and mates were antisocial madge2! You are obviously doing the responsible thing and giving them a place to hang out. I am complaining about parents who haven't a clue what their DCs are up to, who they are with or whose life they are making a misery!
I agree with Martianbishop, I get fed up with the 'nothing to do' excuse. They could help themselves, there are thousands of lovely teenagers about who go out with their friends and have nothing to do but they don't terrorise old people, vandalise cars or spoil people's quality of life. It gives all teenagers a bad name. I am not a dictatorial parent ( I come across as very lax on some threads)but I treat my DSs with respect and demand it from them. They live in my house, my DH and I work hard and pay the bills and while they are in this house they abide by our rules (which are not draconian!)I don't care how big they are, I don't go in for if you are bigger you are allowed to bully and get your own way. If my DS was to piss on people's cars he would take responsibility for it! He would be down there the next day apologising and offering to wash the car or other suitable recompense.
I also don't go for the line that they have to be allowed to do whatever they want otherwise they will merely lie.
I am not a Hitler, I allow quite a lot of things and am open to negotiation and reasoned argument, but I am the parent and I am not having them out on the street at night causing mayhem because they are 'bored'.

I mentioned ds's size to make the point that trying to physically prevent him from doing anything, like you may with a younger smaller child, would be pointless. Hence why I don't try but spend the time talking to him. When I said they may lie I meant you cant just say "your not going there" or whatever with out giving them valid reasons and discussing with them why you don't think it's a good idea. I wasn't implying you should let them do what ever they want because if you don't they will lie to you and do it anyway. What I meant is if you give them the information they need to make informed descisions, when they are in a position when they have make choices about their behaviour or actions , maybe under pressure from their peers, there is a good chance they will make the right ones. IMO discussing consequences of possible behaviours is a good start. So yes if they pee up a car they will have to go and apologise and clean it up.

This really pisses me off DH was actually attacked one night as well. Bastards