To ask teens father for help with uniform

[Rizzo111]

Even though he pays monthly maintenance.
he does pay a lot under what the calculator says however I don’t need more so don’t ask.

dd is moving schools due to issues at her current one. Not necessarily a move he agrees with.

Aibu to ask for financial help? As I am struggling or should this come from maintenance

to add to matters is now not wanting to see him all that much

Nothing wrong with asking. I wouldn't ask my ex but there is nothing wrong with you asking if you want to.

Just make a claim and get the amount you're entitled to.

You can definitely ask, but if he sas no, there's not lot you can do.

You can ask, but really anything like that should come from maintenance.

If he is paying below what CMS would say then put a claim in and get that sorted.

yeah I think doing a claim
would likely cause friction which I want to avoid. Iv not ever asked with help with uniforms etc before but she is having to move schools quite suddenly or urgently

I put YABU as you are asking whether or not to ask your ex for a financial contribution to something your dc needs but don't want to approach CMS to get the right amount.

Either way there will be friction. That money is to support your child. Call CMS and get them the amount due (it's a pathetic contribution anyway and is the bare minimum. If he's paying less than this he's a scumbag)

I think there are a lot of details missing here.

Why doesn’t your ex agree with her moving schools? If he has parental responsibility, he could block it.

How much does he see her now, and why? Also, why doesn’t he want to pay what the calculator says?

If you can’t answer the above, it is hard to say whether you are being unreasonable or not.

I'm sorry but you should be making that claim. It's for your DD, not you and she is entitled to adequate support from both parents. When I got divorced, my ex wanted to pay a nominal monthly amount and then go item by item as things came up. The mediator pointed out how that was a recipe for disaster with every purchase being a potential source of conflict. As it is he pays the CMS amount which honestly comes no-where close to 50% of costs but we just don't discuss it anymore. One day the kids will know who really supported them and made their hobbies, tech and holidays possible.
As for causing friction..how does that conversation go? "Hi ex, the law says this amount of ££ is what you should minimally be contributing so let's go with that from now on". He can't argue about the law. It is what it is. CMS doesn't have to be a threat, just a mechanism to depersonalise the process.

Ask politely. Remind him he is paying less than the CMS calculator. Or just claim full amount and put anything you don't use in a savings account for your daughter.