At the end/beginning of this my dh started acting very offish. He started to pull himself away, not be present and honestly felt like he had a personality transplant. He tried to say he couldnt pin point as to why he felt low in his mood. I think in the end he said it was money.
That hadn't been the first time he has switched on me before however this time he displayed clear disdain and resentment towards his life, including me and dc. My gut was telling me something was up. I suspect he was cheating since the whole being unsatisfied being a dad/partner cliche is classic. I asked him to which his reply was weird. He laughed and rather than just instantly deny it he claimed "were would I get the time?"
To be honest i've read enough mn's posts to know if a man wants to cheat he will get creative. And i suspect it was emotional since he spends alot of his time on his phone/reddit rather than physical.
Anyways, so I asked my partner what he would think if I was to develop feelings for someone else. This was during a very intimatw convo but the context of it makes it seem less random. To my surprise he said he "wouldn't mind/care since he knows feelings are out of your control." That was it. I found his response to be odd and alarming. Call me old fashion but I wouldnt stand nor be happy if my partner expressed love for someone else. When he saw my eyebrow raise he quickly added "well i'd be upset if it meant you won't love me anymore."
Am I looking into this too much or is that not weird? I can't help but feel he is projecting in that answer by trying to validate himself if he had/ or has feelings for someelse. Aibu or isn't it not on in a monogumas relationship to feel like that??
It seems even more out of character because he is very against the idea or three ways/open relationships. However his stance on that has changed from its not what he wants at all to a half hearted "hmm Im worried I couldnt please another woman (he suffers with ed)."