Do you think where you were brought up helped or hindered you in life?

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hindered as ein way away from anywhere

I was brought up in a city and found it super overwhelming. Different strokes for different folks. Most important thing is a loving family.

Helped definitely

Helped. I was brought up in a town, next to the countryside. I went out in the morning and came home when I was hungry.
Running, swimming, playing, walking, cycling.
All unsupervised, with friends.
I became, confident, adept, capable healthy both physically and mentally and I wouldn't change it for the world

Helped, because all I had to do was look around at my depressing hometown and the people in it, the people I was at school with, and that was all the motivation I needed to work my arse off and get into Uni, move away, build a career. I’m successful because of what I didn’t want to become, and where I didn’t want to end up.

Definitely helped. I grew up in London so had access to just about anything I wanted. Then after uni I could live with parents for a few years while working in a grad job (again, endless job opportunities always available)

I did love the countryside as a child but by the time I was a teenager I had parties whenever my parents went away simply because i was so bored/under stimulated.

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Interesting thought provoking insightful question

where i live is a coastal town stunning views can see sunrise and sunset at times by the sea,
two beaches nearby,
One of them designated blue badge status and classed as one of the best beaches in uk,
Also overlooking across local beach,
very well known area of designated nature reserve status and famous archeology Heritage site connections and stunning beaches consirded some of the best of Europe too,

However the town centre is a real let down a state for a visitors and people who live there,

Too many of the wrong changes have been done,
several olde worlde buildings knocked down thought they would have had listed status in the name of idea of progression,
for a dinning area and entertainment quarter alternative,
why on earth they couldnt have kept the olde worlde next to modern,
such as olde worlde pub and olde worlde welsh books shop like something out you expect to see in St Fagans welsh life museum and welsh book shop remisant of children's story books of olde worlde shop etc
now there is just a big eye sore of a skip in place of this lovely building

It's usaul thing out of town shopping main stores moved out Mark's &Spencer's etc,

Town is ghost town

there is a part of me wished i had moved to live nearby my birth family as i am adopted, they live in a big vibrant city in UK

There's a lot of alcohol and drugs issues here and apathy high dependency on benefits

My daughter who's ambitious has moved on done well in Australia 🇦🇺 working and living out there.

No Regrets about moving on she got a degree and travels to different places abroad every so often

Helped, first rural countryside then after 8 a beautiful suburb on edges of seaside and city all easily accessed. Had some major trauma which would have been much worse in a area with less options, lovely friends and family.

Military brat, we moved a LOT. Once I left university, I worked while I travelled, mostly around Europe.

I've been living where I am now for nearly 20 years, but still have itchy feet and I'm hitting my 50s. Very nearly moved to France but then COVID happened. Strangely DH is the same, moved around a lot as a child, changed countries.

It has made me/us rootless. Consequently we've both decided to stay out while our DC are at school, let them grow up with the same friends from the age of 3. We've chosen a nice place to settle, large town by the sea, good train and airport links, easy access to one of the best cities in Europe.

Hopefully they'll grow up feeling like they belong somewhere. I could leave at the drop of a hat, it's quite a sad feeling. But it's also made me feel like friendships are very come and go, so it takes me a long time to open up and invest in friends.

Another thing is DSis and I were never allowed out independently to explore our very very small town next to the countryside, never allowed friends round or to go to their houses, never had birthday parties, no trick or treating at Halloween. Far away from family, so not close to cousins or in close contact with grandparents. Holidays were spent travelling the UK to catch up with family, often travelling up to 14 hours across country!

Our DC's lives are MILES away from my upbringing! Probably making other mistakes

Snap, but I do love to go ‘home’ to visit. I’m the only one in my friend group to move away, I wanted more in life but did appreciate growing up in a relatively safe place (albeit boring!)

I was brought up in NI, so had the advantage of a fantastic grammar school education, which enabled me to get a degree, the first one in my family. The flip side was I hated living in small-town NI (during the Troubles too!) and couldn't wait to escape. I left after uni and only go back to visit family. I'm in Australia now, so delighted I managed to escape!

Helped with my chosen career as people relate to me. Regional accent and knowing the way of things in deprived, working class areas, it's great at building rapport. When people have had a lot of involvement from services, it becomes a revolving door of people with lanyards telling them off or telling them how to do things. Someone coming in who doesn't judge, starts washing up, picks up the babies toys, cuddles the dog, that makes a lot of difference.

Both.

Pros: Lived next to the sea and swam daily. Played out a lot with the kids on my estate.

Cons: On a peninsula, so people rarely left. People who had moved there, like my family, were seen as outsiders. Grotty town. First comprehensive year, so had to go to the closest school, which was formerly a secondary modern with useless (at best; abusive at worst) teachers.

Semi rural. Bloody awful. Limited buses so always reliant on my dad or another friend's parent to give lifts. Nearest big town was 40 minutes away, nearest city 90 minutes away. Limited job opportunities. Long trip to secondary school and college daily.

I guess my parents saw the countryside and a nice village and thought it would be a nice place to grow up but it was limiting and insular.

Don't really see it that way. You can't change it, so viewing it as a benefit or a loss helps no one.

Moved to tiny remote village when teen, was a pain to get around bus etc, but managed.