Agree. It’s easy for people to make offensive proclamations and very harsh judgements on other people’s problems while they are safely shielded by an anonymous user name. The “advice” to LTB for minor crap; cut out siblings, adult parents and in-laws from their lives over normal family squabbles is absolutely amazing.
Particularly interesting are the posts re stepchildren. OP will lay out issue re being taken for granted by DP for childcare of SC; or hostile ex turning SC against SM; or complaints they as SM make difference between own DC and SC; or the favourite - they as SM find their children from previous relationship excluded by DP’s parents and not treated as grandkids.
The advice veers between -
LTB of course you should never be asked to help care for SC;
LTB if he won’t cut his parents out for not treating your kids from earlier relationship the same as their actual grandchildren
LTB if he doesn’t treat your kids same as his kids;
You must love SC as your own and not resent them;
You can’t tell off the SC as they are not yours even if they spend 3 days a week living with you- and so on.
I don’t get how schizophrenic and positively vitriolic the comments are - totally black and white, absolutely mean.
BTW, I don’t have SC and I’m really glad, sounds like lots of work with little reward.