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Don’t know what to do anymore

5 replies

Littlepumkin · 01/04/2024 22:55

I really really feel stuck now

Fell in love with my now DH, we married very promptly after we met as we were both sure about each other feelings and what we want in life.
It was like a fairytale, I was so happy!

However, life as it is his parent got cancer and I was his 100% support during this time, genuinely I was in the hospital every single day helping as I loved my in-law dearly. However, we lost the fight over cancer and my husband turned into a complete new person In just few months.

He started calling me names like idiot, yelling and there was an incident which even though it was years ago, I just can’t forget about it.

Basically, it was my family and only him on a night out that he organized for us all. As we walked to the venue we stopped at few shops with my family as I was excited to show the city where we live, however this meant that we were 10 min late for the show, which meant missing the first 15min of the show.
This caused him to yell at me in front of everyone there but most embarrassing in front of my family, saying that because of me we missed the show, and he just walked off.
My family just got very worried about me since then.

However, at that time he would only act like that in front of them, now years later he does it in the house calling me cunt, waste of space, idiot, and then the next day he will be the most lovely husband in the world …
I seem to be thinking about this on a daily basis I just can’t move on ….

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GrazingSheep · 01/04/2024 23:00

Divorce him.

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 01/04/2024 23:01

Has this change only come about since the death of his parent?

Name calling etc is not acceptable.

You need to tell him he needs to stop or else you will leave.

And he needs therapy if he is having issues with grief.

bellezarara · 01/04/2024 23:03

now years later he does it in the house calling me cunt, waste of space, idiot, and then the next day he will be the most lovely husband in the world …

A lot of men use grief as an excuse to be abusive.

He is abusing you.

Please leave him. Do you have kids?

Littlepumkin · 01/04/2024 23:07

bellezarara · 01/04/2024 23:03

now years later he does it in the house calling me cunt, waste of space, idiot, and then the next day he will be the most lovely husband in the world …

A lot of men use grief as an excuse to be abusive.

He is abusing you.

Please leave him. Do you have kids?

We have one DC

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bellezarara · 01/04/2024 23:08

All the more reason to leave him. Your child will pick up on the abuse and this will be their normal. Leave him for their sake.

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