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AIBU?

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When do I get to say no

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Wowijustneedaname · 01/04/2024 21:57

I f35 leave with DH (m36) and have a very nearly 3yo son. DH is the main contributor to the house. I work job share but on a shift pattern so I work a full week 6am-2pm (before this I walk our dog as DH can’t do that while getting Ds ready for nursery. Ds goes to nursery 3 days a week 8-3) then I either work a Monday/tues night (9pm-7am) or a Wed Thursday night depending on the shift rotation and then I get a week off. I try to use my holidays on a Monday as that’s when it’s Ds swimming lessons that my husband refuses to do with him as he doesn’t want to. I cook every evening meal,make the pack ups and even if it’s my early shift when I wake up for work at half four if he needs something in the night (maybe once a week) I go to my son. My DH has now started pointing out stuff I could do on the days I’m off work and our son is at nursery, I honestly normally use these days to ether wash bedding or get some rest.

AIBU to say I know you work full time but in some ways I do too??

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Lurkingandlearning · 01/04/2024 22:28

No. Say it. It sounds exhausting. I hope he listens

parietal · 01/04/2024 22:28

you and your DH should get roughly the same amount of time each week for leisure (not paid work or housework) and then it is up to you how you want to use the time. sleeping is fine when you have shift work.

Sunbeam18 · 02/04/2024 21:37

You can just say no, you don't need permission

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