To wonder how you make peace with regrets?

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At 46, I am a very different person to who I was when I was 16 but unfortunately, at that age I made some decisions that affected my life....getting with my abusive ex who then messed up my uni degree ( I dropped out) and subsequently earning potential.
I am now a AHP but I am not on a good wage. I used to be anti capitalist hippy and therefore uninterested in money. A rebelion against my strict family and frankly horrific private school experience. I am now VERY interested in money.....I have different values.
How do I accept the person I was and adjust to my new expectations ( make more cash)...hope that makes sense?

Guilt serves no purpose does it particularly if you’ve hurt no one (but yourself). Life is learning from your experiences. Older and wiser and all that.

Well, as a fellow AhP with a few years on the clock... I'd say 5 years of therapy, but that's expensive.

I'd say you need to forgive your younger self and not react against them in the same way. You were so unbelievably young, and no doubt targeted, consciously or unconsciously, by your ex.

As for your financial goals, I would definitely make more money if I went private in the week and did NHS locums at the weekend. What are the key plans financially?

I hear you. I try to live without regret. All part of life’s rich tapestry. I rebelled against my upbringing too, but if I hadn’t followed that path I’d not have met my husband and my children wouldn’t be here. Neither of us are well paid either, as in under the UK “average” salary. Unlike many public sector workers we have the legal minimum pension (3% employer) and statutory minimum for sick and maternity pay (both of which I’ve needed in the last year, I was ill during my pregnancy). But I don’t see myself as hard done by. I’m better off than many and most of the world: I have a roof over my head, food on the table. I have my health. I have a pension, small as it may be. I have so much, I can’t regret that. Retrain if you want, but money won’t make you happy, I had access to more in my early twenties (lived a city life with an ex who could afford it), but there was still never enough. He was on £100k but his best friend were on £250k so we couldn’t keep up. I left that world but I earn as much now as I did then, 15 years ago. That’s life.

this.

Guilt serves no one, makes everything worse, just stop.

Everytime it comes, hard stop, and make your mind go elsewhere

"No amount of regret can change the past

No amount of worry can change the future

Any amount of gratitude can change the present"