To just enjoy being home

[daffophil]

It's catch 22 really because being home with the dc and having no plans is also stressful in it's own way but generally I just love the days when we have no obligations or plans.

Took the dc on a city day out this weekend and although I'm glad we did something and #madememories I was so happy to get home. I find that in the run up to holidays and big days out I actually dread it a bit. During them I enjoy them (ish) but generally I just look forward to getting home and back in the routine.

I'm conscious that I have to make the effort to do things as dc deserve experiences and to see new places but left to my own devices I honestly just enjoy slow mornings, pottering in the garden, reading, local walks and visiting familiar places. Am I boring?

honestly just enjoy slow mornings, pottering in the garden, reading, local walks and visiting familiar places.

This is me. My favourite days are those when my diary is empty and I don't go out of the garden gate.

I think you're me...

Same. Its a lot of effort but if we stay in ds constantly wants to watch TV and I have a crap imagination so take him out instead.

Yep this is us too. I have to get them out for my own sanity as well as theirs but I know that if it was just me I wouldn't venture far.

I don't mind local places but it does get boring going to the same places week in week out. But big ticket days out and holidays just make me anxious and wipe me out. they're nice to look back on I suppose.

I’m also a big fan of quiet home days and often put one of my children into a holiday club with friends because she prefers much more activity (autistic sibling means it’s hard to balance meeting all the children’s needs).

This is me too. I love the quiet home life more than anything.

For the first time in a long time we had 4 days with no plans not a single one. Utter bliss. Don't get me wrong I love seeing family and friends and days out but this has felt like a proper break.

We've made nice meals walked DDog twice a day pottered in the garden watched films played cards it's been great

I love being at home. I enjoy going somewhere if it’s nature and peaceful but I’m not a fan of anywhere with lots of people.
I took DD to a large shopping centre recently and she didn’t enjoy it much because it was too ‘peopley’ - luckily she also prefers nature so we’re both happy.

Everything is balance.

It's great to do days out. It's great you like your home enough to not wait until you're back there!

It's great to have days where you potter.

It's great to have days where you get outside for walks and park etc.

IME from when ds was younger (he's an adult now) the friends who always had to be doing something with their children with another family were compensating for unhappiness and hiding from problems.

It's also really good for your children to learn to potter. I'm reading a really interesting book currently about dopamine hits and the current lifestyle and how the relationship between always seeking pleasure leads to pain. It makes so much sense when I think back to those slays seeking "something"

I like having no time structure and solid set plan. So we can wake up, make breakfast at our own pace and get out if we want too!

I think this is quite normal. I feel like the older we get the less we care to be around others.

@ititsgettingweird that sounds like a really interesting book. Could you share the title and author please?