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AIBU?

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AIBU to turn down a colleague?

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Rubbishatpubquizzes · 31/03/2024 21:28

I'm good friends with a man I've worked with for a couple of months and I admit I do fancy him. We talk all the time, get on really well, tons in common and similar personalities, I do find him attractive.
We've spent time together as friends one-to-one and we've always got tons to talk about. He's made it clear he'd like to go on a date but I think dating at work is a bad idea. I've refused someone in a previous workplace for the same reason.
The last time I did date at work, it didn't end well and it was incredibly awkward/difficult to have to still see them at work, it made me want to change jobs.
So AIBU to keep things platonic, even if he's a lovely guy? I don't want him to think it's him as it isn't, if we didn't work together I would be interested in dating.

OP posts:
Sureaseggs44 · 01/04/2024 00:10

Breaking up is always bad .I would go out with him but only seriously date if you really like him .

SurelySmartie · 01/04/2024 00:14

beetr00 · 31/03/2024 21:44

What exactly does ‘while out and about’ mean? Sounds rather vague.

buffetbuffalo · 01/04/2024 16:32

SurelySmartie · 01/04/2024 00:14

What exactly does ‘while out and about’ mean? Sounds rather vague.

I think it means chatting up strangers in bars, clubs, libraries...? 😎

LlynTegid · 01/04/2024 16:35

I value keeping work and home separate and think you sensible for wanting the same thing.

PotatoPudding · 01/04/2024 17:25

Rubbishatpubquizzes · 31/03/2024 22:16

We work for the Civil Service in an office-based role, I enjoy working here and don't want to have to leave or affect my reputation, I just don't know.

There’s your answer then.

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