P*ssed of at DH over birthday.

[CarrotHeadRoots]

So MN tell me straight am I being a drama queen.

Woke up on my birthday to no present. DH gave me two cards and said present hadn’t arrived in the post. It did arrive the next day, DH wrapped it and said it was from the kids. Nothing of him. Left for work, without saying bye after I said I felt a bit sad.

Felt a bit sh*ty that I do loads for him and the kids. Bought him a few lovely things off me for his birthday and a nice present from the kids.

Would you be disheartened?

Id probably be having a chat and saying maybe it's time to ditch gifts to each other here on in. No expectations so no disappointments. It's a shame when one half can't be arsed.

In your shoes I'd be buying myself some nice presents

Then when his birthday comes round I'd totally ignore it. If he complained I'd just say

• oh, I thought this was what we were doing now, after all, you did fuck all for my birthday.

Christmas & anything else he celebrates would be just the same. You get out what you put in.

Great minds think alike! These were my exact thoughts. I didn’t know if I was being dramatic and then creating a situation.

mum life - always thinking of others!

We just choose our own now, we are pretty busy and neither of us is big on gifts and we pretty buy what we want as we go along (we don’t have big wants). It’s just easier, the only reason we bother with that is so that Dd has something to give.

Either match your efforts to his or have a frank discussion about what good looks like in this situation.