I have PMDD - is my DP being unreasonable or am I?

[ThatPeachSnake]

I am having a terrible bout of PMDD. Partner says he understands (but don’t think he does really!).

The weather outside is sunny where we are and DP wants to go out. I am having terrible cramps, mood swings/weepiness and an upset stomach. My back and legs ache and I would just like to be at home until I feel better.

DP is insisting (every five mins!) that we go out, it’ll make me feel better. I suggested we take a walk on the river front but he wants to go into town and get a drink - the last thing I want to do with an upset stomach, quite frankly!

Ive told him to go alone or meet a friend. I am at home pottering, made him a nice lunch and just now want to some alone time, but he keeps pressuring me to leave the house because he says it’ll make me feel better. AIBU to think actually, he has no idea what this is like and therefore no idea what will make me feel better?

he’s now in a mood and it’s making me feel bad. I’m annoyed at him - or should I just be sucking this up and heading out to enjoy a lovely sunny Sunday together?

this is also not the first time this has happened!

Nothing worse than someone insisting they know what will work more than the person who experiences the day to day reality

Well you could have enjoyed a lovely sunny Sunday together. Eating the lunch you made then heading out for the river side walk you suggested. You could have had a very nice time together doing that, but only a bar in town was 'lovely' enough for him, so he chose to do nothing and waste the day, not you.

I think you both are being a bit unreasonable. Surely you could have had a nice walk then gotten a drink?

Your better than me. I would have flipped with pmdd and told him where to go. Sertraline had been amazing at leveling me out during the month

I really don’t feel like going for a drink when I have an upset stomach. To be honest, I don’t feel like going out at all - I was only suggesting a river walk since it’s close to our house and if I needed to run back to the loo, I was close enough.

I have been taking sertraline for a year, I thought it was helping at first but it’s seems to have stopped doing the job.

currently on the hunt for a specialist in my area, the PMDD is unbearable and I just keep getting fobbed off 😞

I too have pmdd and started on Setraline low dose and it has been amazing for my moods. Also on agnus cactus and so far I’ve had no pre period spotting (1000mg) just a side note!
ps I don’t think men can ever understand or get it, hope you feel better soon

Oh jinx @Hankunamatata ! it’s great isn’t it, I seriously used to change into a different personality and mind set from day 16 onwards it was so awful. Hardly feel any shift at all now