To be extremely put off?

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I have been seeing someone, we are not exclusive. Reason being, his currently away travelling for a minimum of six months. We talked about giving things a go when he returns. He's very keen to, but said the ball is in my court.

He left at the end of December, I have just found out he has slept with 6 different women since then. Drunken one night stands.

It's really put me off. I've got the ick.

I now can't see myself being with him when he gets back. He's still got another 3+ months of shagging to go!!!

He says it's meaningless sex.

Would this put you off?

Yes this would put me off. He’s not that into you.

Yes

Yes it would put me off. Call me old fashioned but this American way of not being exclusive until you agree is weird. He just wants you waiting in the wings for when he's finished getting his willy wet. Yuck.

He said "the balls in your court" when he gets back? Like he's some big prize!

Walk away, he's a player.

It seems so pathetic/desperate/juvenile to me.

I know for a fact, he is looking for sex. There's no way this amount of women are throwing themselves at him.

Hell yes

Big time.

He wants you on the substitutes bench

It would put me off but he’s been totally upfront about his plans. He might yet fall for one of these other women too.

Massively.

I'd block all contact with him. He's happy with meaningless sex. He isn't relationship material.

Yes it would put me off. There is a balance between being non exclusive and systematically shagging your way through South East Asia or wherever. Very unattractive. Plus the fact he clearly thinks its somehow a flex?! Eurgh.

Tell him you’re doing the same thing and report back.

How many other women he doing this to?

I’m wondering why he has told you? Are you supposed to be impressed?

Let him do his thing...you do yours. Maybe you'll still be single and want to get back with him when he returns. Maybe not.

If you do give it a go, make damn sure he gets tested....who wants to share his round the world STIs 🤮

Quite!

Yes. I wouldn't want a partner who thinks in terms of 'meaningless sex'. And are you certain that he's practicing safe sex? I'd worry about infections.

He told you this, it's probably not even true. Silly bastard. If he's non exclusive then you can't do much.
I'd quit whatever your arrangement is if I were you tbh.

Quite the stud! That would be my queue to move on.

Yuck. That would put me right off. Next…

I would have said to him get in touch when you get back from travelling and continued dating other people. He is doing his thing (and being a bit too open and honest imo)

I'd rather know.
But also, I'd pass.