To have bought it for myself

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Have never been bothered with festivals or Mother’s Day etc. DD is now of an age where she wants to make a token effort which is sweet. A few weeks before MD she asked what I would like. I said a rubix cube, as I am interested to learn how to do it. She said she would need an Amazon account and I said she could ask DH to help her.

DH was going away for a week the day before MD. He was a pain in the arse about packing (last minute and expecting me to know where everything was). I drove him to the airport at 4am and on the way he said “by the way, I didn’t sort anything for MD”. No apology.

He did nothing for my birthday (again) a few months previous. (I’ve stopped doing anything for his apart from sorting something from DD.)

My mum text DD the day before MD to ask her to make me a card, which she did. But not until the afternoon of MD. She said she had asked DH for help with the rubix cube but he hadn’t got around to it.

I had a few hours to kill in London this week and found myself in a toy store. They had rubix cubes so I bought one. (I’ve a big report to write this weekend and it will help me to focus.)

DH was unhappy that I had bought it myself. Apparently I make it impossible for him to do anything for me. I pointed out that we were 3 weeks from MD and about 7 since I told DD and him I would like one. So what was the plan because it looked like there was no plan to me.

So, was I unreasonable to buy it for myself?

I hope he’s joking. Pffff. He’s had plenty of opportunity to get it sorted.

My DH would have laughed, apologised sincerely and said he owed me one (he’s pretty disorganised too, though he means well).

Your poor daughter.

I bet she was upset that she wasn’t able to give you what you asked for on Mothers Day. YANBU.

perhaps he could get you a book on how to solve it. There is one by Dan Harris which is very good. It’s called speed solving the cube but it’s actually very good at explaining the basic algorithm.

Your DH is a bit of a dickhead. Tell him you're still waiting for your birthday present and had no idea that a belated Mother's Day present was even a possibility.

After all, he's not noted for making any effort, is he? But hey - that will be all your fault too, OP.

So he didn't have time to type "Rubik's cube" into Amazon and click buy, for his own daughter?

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Your husband is a prick, your poor daughter

DH was going away for a week the day before MD. He was a pain in the arse about packing (last minute and expecting me to know where everything was). I drove him to the airport at 4am and on the way he said “by the way, I didn’t sort anything for MD”. No apology.

This isn't about whether you care about 'days'. This is basic disrespect. You were assisting him and he didn't;t bother thinking about you.

Please tell me in every other way he's a wonderful man, who does all the housework while giving you multiple orgasms.

I’m away half the week so he does his fair share. He’s not good at organising things but I don’t submit to being the “Keeper of Things” or owner of the Mental Load.

I’m more bothered about him getting stroppy because I didn’t wait for eternity for him to arrange getting it for me.

He's just trying to make himself feel better. 'I was going to buy you one' doesn't wear well, when it's been nearly 2 months.

YWNBU to buy it…and he still needs to help DD arrange something for you whether it’s a gift or a trip out at this point.