AIBU to still feel a bit angry about this...

[RunningBunny8]

Myself and ex had been part of a Meet-Up group for a few years and had mutual friends there. We broke up about 2.5 years ago and to help me get over the breakup, I decided not to return to this group but now do the hobby with a different group. I know he didn't make me leave, but he also didn't encourage me to return, and he was so nasty and hurtful to me in the end I felt I had to move on and wanted nothing to do with him. I still meet 2 friends from the meet-up that I was close to. I'm happy enough with the new group and enjoying it, but if the situation had been reversed I would have done my best to encourage him to return. We've had no contact since.

I heard from one friend I do meet up with that they've all gone to Wales for the long weekend, and feel a bit down about it - for some reason I still think it's a bit unfair and I'm missing out.

AIBU to still feel a little upset and angry?

Join another meetup group ..im member of about 10

I think YABU. Did you tell the group why you were leaving or just ghost them?

It's been 2.5 years. Why would they invite you if you've only kept in touch with 2 people?

You split up, you didn’t need his encouragement or approval to continue being in the group. It’s on you that you left, it doesn’t read as though he’s done anything other than not encourage his ex to spend time in a group with him and honestly, why would he?

You made a choice. That was best for you at the time.

why would he try and convince you to change your mind? And why would you have changed your mind? It was the best thing for you?

I appreciate you regret the decision now. But it was made for good reason. But I think you regret it and and now kids directing that feeling. Understandable, but remember why you made that decision.

It was your decision not to return to the group. Your ex has done anything wrong in this situation.

I can see why you feel a bit sore, @RunningBunny8 , with them all off doing a nice thing and you not. It’s rubbish when stuff like this happens after a break up, even if it’s inevitable.

It's not up to him to encourage you to return. That's on you

of course you will feel you have missed out but need to move on

You shouldn’t have left the group to him. Try and rejoin. You can’t be annoyed if you stopped going.

Rejoin the group if you miss them so much.

I can’t see how you think it’s his responsibility to encourage you back, if you wish to rejoin then rejoin. You’re an adult and you made a decision when you split and you can make a decision again, he is not responsible here.

YABU you left 2 YEARS ago, time to move on OP. Have you posted about this group set up before? I’ve deff read it on here recently